What’s an ick you have that your partner does?

We have been together a year, but things took a nosedive a few months back when I lost my mom. I’ve been more sensitive lately, and he's always threatening to break up every single month. I’m in therapy trying to get better. He gets weird (usually after a fight), says he doesn’t feel the same and drops the breakup bomb. Yesterday was round four, I got so mad I started packing to leave and he goes “You’re just gonna walk without talking?” I pushed him to explain what’s wrong, we hashed it out, I apologized, and we got back together. The cycle’s exhausting. He won’t talk about issues until they pile up, then blows up. Now I’m scared 24/7 he’ll dump me again. What do I even do here?

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2025/9/11 Edited to

... Read moreExperiencing repeated breakup threats after every argument can be emotionally draining and deeply unsettling. This pattern often stems from unresolved communication issues and heightened emotional responses, especially during sensitive times. It’s important to recognize that such cycles can damage self-esteem and foster anxiety about the relationship’s stability. One effective step is establishing open and honest communication before tensions escalate. Instead of letting frustrations pile up, encourage discussions about concerns as they arise. This proactive approach can prevent misunderstandings and reduce the likelihood of explosive arguments. Therapy plays a crucial role not only for individual emotional healing but also for couples to navigate their shared struggles. If your partner is resistant to therapy, starting with your own therapy journey is still beneficial, as it helps build resilience and provides coping mechanisms. Setting boundaries is also essential. Let your partner know how constant breakup threats impact your mental health and the relationship’s trust. Agree on healthier ways to handle conflict, focusing on respect rather than threats. Additionally, practicing self-care and seeking support from friends or support groups can help reduce feelings of isolation. Remember that a relationship should provide safety and comfort, not ongoing fear of sudden breakups. Finally, recognize patterns of emotional manipulation and be prepared to make difficult decisions if these behaviors persist. Prioritize your well-being while striving for a relationship marked by mutual respect and effective communication.

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This sucks but honestly I do this a lot in relationships as well & for me it’s not healthy to do I’ll admit but for me it’s like I threatened to leave because I’m scared they will leave me first & that just devastates me so idk it’s a coping mechanism for me & it sucks because honestly I don’t want to break up I just feel Ike they will leave first

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Rose 🐝

i would leave. he knows you'll come back, so he keeps doing it over and over. like hes testing how far he can push you

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