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❌ Stop being a People Pleaser and come back and love yourself. 🤍✨

Sometimes we should stop appeasing others too much, because in the end, the person who has to bear the most suffering and discomfort is "ourselves." 🥺

Remember that choosing to reject what you can't and then choosing your happiness is not at all wrong, because it is the basic thing that everyone does to protect their feelings. 🫂🌿

Today, let's draw a boundary line and be more kind to yourself. Anyone who is trying to stop being a People Pleaser, stop by to comment and send energy to each other under this post. 😊💕

# Trending # Head, take care of yourself # Love yourself to be # selflovetips # Lemon 8 Howtoo

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... Read moreการเป็น People Pleaser หรือคนที่มุ่งมั่นทำทุกอย่างเพื่อให้ผู้อื่นพอใจ อาจทำให้เราไม่มีเวลาคิดถึงและดูแลตัวเองอย่างแท้จริง หลายครั้งที่เราเลือกที่จะไม่พูดปฏิเสธ เพราะกลัวการขัดใจคนอื่น แต่ผลลัพธ์ที่ตามมาคือความเครียดสะสมและความรู้สึกไม่สบายใจในใจของเราเอง จากประสบการณ์ส่วนตัว ดิฉันเคยตกอยู่ในสถานการณ์ที่พยายามทำทุกอย่างตามที่คนรอบข้างต้องการ จนลืมถามตัวเองว่าเราต้องการอะไรจริงๆ และสิ่งนี้ทำให้สุขภาพจิตของฉันแย่ลงเรื่อยๆ ต่อมาจึงเริ่มเรียนรู้ที่จะวางขอบเขตที่ชัดเจน เช่น การพูดคำว่า “ไม่” อย่างสุภาพเมื่องานหรือกิจกรรมที่ทำให้รู้สึกหนักใจ หรือใช้เวลาในการเติมพลังใจให้กับตัวเอง เช่น การพักผ่อน อ่านหนังสือ หรือทำกิจกรรมที่ชอบ พอเริ่มให้ความสำคัญกับความสุขของตัวเองมากขึ้น การรับมือกับความคาดหวังของผู้อื่นก็ดีขึ้นตามไปด้วย ยิ่งเราใจดีกับตัวเองมากเท่าไหร่ ก็ยิ่งมีพลังใจรับมือกับความต้องการของคนอื่นได้ดีขึ้นโดยไม่รู้สึกเหนื่อยหรือเสียใจ อย่าลืมว่า การรักตัวเองไม่ใช่เรื่องเห็นแก่ตัว แต่มันคือการปกป้องความรู้สึกและสุขภาพจิตของเรา เพื่อให้เรามีพลังที่ดีในการใช้ชีวิตและแบ่งปันความรักความสุขให้กับคนรอบข้างได้อย่างแท้จริงค่ะ สำหรับใครที่กำลังพยายามเลิกเป็น People Pleaser ขอเป็นกำลังใจให้ทุกคนตั้งใจดูแลตัวเองและขีดเส้นขอบเขตที่เหมาะสม การเปลี่ยนแปลงอาจไม่ง่ายในช่วงแรก แต่เชื่อว่าเมื่อทุกคนได้รักตัวเองมากขึ้น ชีวิตจะมีความสุขและสมดุลมากขึ้นแน่นอนค่ะ

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