Carrying children often... makes the stepdaughter carry, right? 🤱

Carrying the baby often will make the baby "stuck," right?

"Don't carry often. The baby will be carried."

I believe that many houses have heard such warnings that many parents hesitate that when they sing, they should hurry or let them sing first.

When Phoebus started raising her children, she was curious, but after studying the pediatrician's research and advice, she found that the answer may not be what many people believed.

Crying is a baby's way of communicating.

For adults, when hungry, sleepy or sick, we can tell our own needs.

But for babies, "crying" is the only way to communicate that.

* I'm hungry

* I'm sleepy

* I'm sick

* I'm scared

* Or I want to feel safe

So crying is not wayward, but a sign that you need help.

Research says the response is more important than the cry.

John Bowlby's Attachment Theory and Mary Ainsworth's research found that, when caregivers respond warmly and consistently to their child's needs, children gradually form a Secure Attachment, or "stable bond."

The child will learn that.

* The world is safe

* When there's a problem, there's someone to help.

* The overseer is a trustworthy man.

These feelings are the cornerstone of developing emotions, confidence, and relationships with others in the future.

Did carrying make the baby carry?

Current academic evidence It has not been found that carrying or responding appropriately to infants, makes children "addicted" or overbearing, especially during the first year of life.

Cause it's because babies don't yet have the ability to plan or manipulate adults to get what they want.

When he sings, he just says, "I need help."

So carrying, hugging, comforting speech, or gentle response is a response to your child's needs, not indulgence.

And why do some people feel that they want to be carried forever?

Because for babies, caregivers are "safe areas."

When you're shocked, sleepy, sick, or in the face of a new environment, he often wants to be around people who feel reassuring.

This behavior is normal for development and does not mean that parents carry their children too much.

As the child grows up and feels stable enough, he slowly dares to go out and explore the world on his own with age.

What parents should know

Responding when you cry doesn't mean you have to carry it every time without noticing the cause.

It is important to see what you need, such as hunger, sleepiness, discomfort, or comfort, and respond appropriately to the situation.

Because what you learned is not

"Cry and will carry"

But is

"When I need help, someone will take care of it."

This sense of security is the basis of future emotional stability.

Summary

Carrying, hugging, comforting speech, and responding when a child cries, does not make the child "carry" as many are concerned.

In contrast, pediatric evidence and child developmental psychology suggest that a warm and appropriate response helps create a sense of security, trust, and a stable bond that is the cornerstone of long-term emotional and relationship development.

Sometimes... what your child needs is not to carry him, but an embrace that reassures him that "no matter what happens, there are always parents here."

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