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The lesson helped a friend get a job that day and become selfish today.✨

In the old days, Picha went to work as an outsource at a company.

There were women close in age coming to work.

The position is the same, so we have to talk often until we get close.

It looks like nothing, but really, Picha was, uh, from the beginning.

Because when Pisha can do the best, he will actually come to watch, but the smile and the eyes do not match at all, like an insincere compliment, and in the latter there are words and words pressed often until Pisha feels not ok

Until one day, Picha changed his job to partner with a bank in the insurance company. When he told him, he was said to say, "Do insurance work?" Like a small insult, but Picha didn't say anything. Until the first month, he made a total of nearly 80,000 baht. Life was much better than before. There was more money to spend. He started to notice on Facebook and said, "Why is it more comfortable to spend money than when working together?"

After that, he greeted every day, called often, complained that he couldn't.

Wanting to quit the old place, Picha knew what he was hoping, and he said, "If there's a vacancy, I'll tell the boss."

And it was real. When the team quit, Picha sent him the news, and he immediately agreed, and he came to work, claiming to the boss that he was a "close friend of Picha," who had known each other for a few months.

After that...

The thing that has come back is the opposite. From ever calling every day, talking every day. Once you get the job you want, it disappears. No contact, no thanks for a word. Repeat, also block all channels, both lines and faces. Like Pisha never exists.

In spite of Picha's recommended work, his life improved, he ate well, his salary was better, but what Picha got back was a cut.

His wedding day... never thought to invite him without Picha.

He wouldn't even have a chance at this job.

And finally, they both broke up....

🔸 the truth later.

Picha had the opportunity to meet his ex-husband, so he knew the truth about why that day was not invited and why it disappeared because he said to his girlfriend, "Picha doesn't like it because Picha is better than him, making him feel inferior," so he chose to block and cut it off like Picha is the villain in his life.

The ex-husband frankly said, "When they are together, their habits are not as cute as they were at first." Everything is like making a picture every day.

🔸 lesson.

And that day Pisha told himself not to help anyone with the job again, it wasn't worth the feeling of losing, he didn't want anything, and the word "thank you" wasn't heard.

Today I am a hard-hearted person and a selfish person.

It doesn't help anyone because helping the wrong person hurts a lot more than I thought.

Maybe the mistake wasn't his alone.

But it was Pisha who "trusted the wrong man." 😭

# Life lessons # Peak story # Mind health # Love experience # Grown up, want to review

2025/8/20 Edited to

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