Here’s why…
So me and my ex boyfriend had been dating for 3 years and I’ve somehow grown away from him because of our past…I recently got approved for my apartment and moved in today and did not tell him because I feel like he’s just using me for a place to stay. Our whole relationship everything revolved around me taking care of us. He’s had one job our whole relationship and got fired but when he did have the job he was so willingly to leave me because he didn’t need me at the time. He lost the job and I was back paying for everything we ended up leaving the hotel we were staying at to go stay with my sister so I could secretly save for my apartment…I eventually just completely lost feelings for him, moved in with my cousin and left him at my sister house cuz she said he could stay there for now. He doesn’t know I moved and I don’t want him to know at all because I feel like he’s gonna try to come live off me again and I can’t take care of a grown 27 year old man he don’t want to work he act like he’s too good for a temp job but expect to live with me for free also admitted to not getting a job because and I quote
“I just felt the way that you were treating me and the vibe that you were giving off that you didn't want me anymore so I was like what's the point of actually working if she doesn't want to work with me”
So you knew I wasn’t feeling u nomore and u continued to stay instead of leaving cuz u had nowhere to go.
Am I wrong for leaving him where he’s at?
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‼️PSA‼️ MY SISTER AND HER DUDE AGREED ON LETTING HIM STAY UNTIL THE 1ST OF JANUARY SHE IS ENGAGED WITH THREE KIDS WE DONT MESS AROUND WITH EACH OTHERS DUDES OVER HERE JUST FOR ANYONE THATS CONFUSED AS TO WHY HE IS AT MY SISTER HOUSE IT WAS AN AGREEMENT BETWEEN HER AND HER DUDE WHICH WHOM BOTH LIVE TOGETHER🙂 PLEASE DONT BRING UR INSECURITIES OVER HERE
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Deciding to move out and establish your own place can be one of the strongest steps towards self-empowerment, especially when your relationship dynamic has become unbalanced. Many people experience times when they feel taken for granted or burdened with unfair responsibilities, particularly when finances and emotional support become one-sided. It’s important to recognize when a partner’s unwillingness to contribute or lack of effort impacts your emotional well-being. In situations where one person shoulders financial obligations while the other remains passive or unmotivated, it can create resentment and emotional distance. Choosing to leave in these circumstances is not just about physical space but about preserving mental health and dignity. The phrase "I didn't let my boyfriend move in" captures an essential aspect of setting boundaries. Allowing someone to move into your life or space when they are not prepared to contribute equally can lead to co-dependency and exploitative relationships. Establishing independence by securing your own apartment is a vital act of self-care. Moreover, the candid admission that "he just felt the way that you were treating me and the vibe that you were giving off that you didn’t want me anymore so... what's the point of actually working" highlights a common challenge in relationships. Sometimes, miscommunication or emotional distance leads to assumptions and avoidance of responsibility. Understanding this cycle can help you navigate your boundaries and expectations better. For anyone facing similar dilemmas, remember that prioritizing your stability and happiness is paramount. Leaving a situation where your partner lacks motivation or respect encourages personal growth and opens doors to healthier relationships. Moving out quietly and not informing someone who might rely on you underscores the need to protect your peace. In essence, this story isn’t just about a breakup or moving out; it’s about recognizing your worth, setting clear boundaries, and choosing freedom over dependency. Many people find strength in leaving these difficult circumstances behind to create a better future for themselves.
You’re not wrong. You didn’t abandon him — you stopped enabling him. For three years you carried the weight financially, emotionally, and mentally while he chose comfort over responsibility. A grown man refusing to work because of “vibes” is not a partner, that’s a dependent. You protected your peace, your future, and your stability. That’s not selfish — that’s survival. He had time, support, and chances. You’re allowed to move forward without dragging someone who refuses to move with you. Choosing yourself doesn’t make you cold. It means you finally learned your worth.