I lost my baby..

Our lives changed when we saw your arrival.

After 2.5 years.

After 2 failed IUI cycles.

After 2 failed IVF cycles.

You came so suddenly and light up our world.

We saw your heartbeat flicker on the screen for the first time.

It was the most beautiful thing, knowing that you are growing in me.

Then came our 12 weeks scan when we thought we have made it through.

They said you were too small, they couldn't find your heartbeat.

The lights went out just like that.

I thought my body was keeping you safe. How can I have lost you when you're still here inside me?

My dear olive, please come back to us again ok? We'll be right here waiting for you.

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... Read moreExperiencing pregnancy loss after enduring multiple fertility treatments such as IUI and IVF is an incredibly emotional and difficult journey. From my own experience and the support I found in online communities, one of the most important steps in coping is allowing yourself to grieve openly and honestly. It’s natural to feel shock and disbelief, especially after seeing that first flicker of a heartbeat—a powerful symbol of hope and new life. Many couples who endure failed fertility treatments lean on emotional support groups where shared stories create a safe space to express feelings and gain comfort. Engaging in gentle self-care activities, such as mindfulness meditation or journaling, helps in processing complex emotions. Remembering that the body sometimes needs time to heal physically and emotionally reinforces the importance of patience and kindness towards oneself. In cases where the heartbeat is lost and the pregnancy cannot continue, like in this story, it is vital to consult with healthcare providers to understand medical options and receive compassionate care. For example, follow-up scans and examinations ensure physical health while counseling services can offer mental health support tailored to grief related to pregnancy loss. Ultimately, holding onto hope and maintaining open communication with your partner strengthens resilience. For those navigating this path, acknowledging the mixed feelings of loss and anticipation can empower you to continue your journey toward parenthood with renewed strength and optimism.

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Have you tried cutting plastic? Like plastic da-bao food container, no phthalates in your skincare/makeup/hygiene product. Eat salmon once a week. Polyester underwear change to cotton. Baby dust to you.

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Lemonmum

Hugs. I did iui n ivf too and we went tcm. Got our rainbow baby 🌈

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