Love in the app era, are we dating people or are we playing games?

Have you ever been so lonely? I don't want to have a serious girlfriend.

But still open the dating app every night, scroll through strangers before bed, swipe through some matches, not some matches, talk some, disappear and finally put on the phone with the same question in the head:

"What exactly are we doing?"

The author used to think that he was just making friends, but when he used to start to feel that he wasn't just talking, he was waiting for someone to "choose us" over and over again.

Have you ever been a reader when people answer quickly → feel good when people disappear → when they are poured → start blaming ourselves when we actually do nothing wrong? The system makes us think that.

The dating app is designed for us "almost always."

Almost met the right person, almost really dating, almost clear but never the best enough, so we stayed to play, postponed, continued to talk, and hoped to continue without knowing that it was getting tired

The author met a lot of people who didn't regret it because they broke up, but regretted it because "there was nothing to quit." It just disappeared. Quiet.

And finish.

And then we have to start over.

Have you ever wondered why people are not stable now? Everything seems fragile and why everyone has too many options.

Maybe the problem isn't us, but maybe the platform we're playing at, where everyone is classified as an option. In the end, we'll start looking at ourselves as a product.

The picture must be good.

Profile must be bang

Personality must be sold.

Forgetting that we really just want to have someone present and not be that good at acting.

The author did not say to stop using the app because it is not true for many people, but just wanted to think that we are using it or are being used to make money for the app.

Can we still choose slowly? Can we still talk deeply? Still dare to ask for clarity? Still honor the feelings or are we getting used to being too ambiguous?

If the reader ever felt that

"Dating in the app is so tired."

"Why is it not like in the head?"

"Why don't you feel enough in yourself?"

This article is not written for short-form encouragement.

But write to unpack the entire system of what the digital world is working with our hearts.

The author wrote the full version on the Puff web. Analyze the psychological, social and business aspects of the deep platform. If you want to understand yourself more, try to read it on the direct link bio 👉 article: Love or Just a Game.

And if readers have ever experienced anything like this, you can talk in the comments.

The author also wants to hear where everyone is playing this game.

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