💊 Poisons and cancer. 🍂

When anxiety is poison...

Why are we still willing to do it?

If the comparison is like a biting cancer,

Why can't we stop comparing?

Everyone knows these facts.

But maybe it's so hard to fix it.

Because our bodies respond to them.

According to habituation...

Let's learn why.

And practice skills to overcome habituation.

(1) Poisons

The anxiety is caused by our absence from the present.

Our thoughts drift into the past, into the future.

If you can't imagine when we're drifting,

Notice for yourself if you are this person.

Let's say you're eating with someone in front of you.

- Did you pick up the phone to check?

Sadly, the answer of most people in this generation is yes.

It's funny how people want to spend time on screen.

Than spending time with people who meet each other.

If you want to train to live with the present,

Meditation, setting your breath, can sound a little boring.

Let's start with something simple.

Seriously being with the person in front

Spend time with him like

"This is the last meeting."

Of both of you...

(2) Cancer

Comparisons are very difficult to avoid in modern times.

Just turn on the screen and plow a little and find the success of a lot of people.

If an event like this ever happened to you,

So you started making cancer for yourself.

Suppose

You're in a good mood, sipping coffee. Open your phone to see social media.

After a while, scroll through a picture of someone with a big single house.

"Why is his life so good? The house is so beautiful."

"Can I live in a house like that? Hey..."

See, before you turn on your phone, you're still in a good mood.

Just come across the good life of someone (who probably doesn't even know).

Instead, you immediately feel bad about your life.

More sad than that.

People today spend time on that screen of comparison.

Longer than the time it takes to sleep.

So how do we deal with comparisons?

1) Reduce screen time, increase real life time

When you don't see it, you implicitly compare less.

When you increase your real life, you give more time to your relationship.

Especially a relationship with yourself.

2) Create self-esteem by comparing yourself to the past, not others.

Try to find 15 minutes of free time to write down your current achievements.

Looking back at the past (maybe 10 years ago or shorter)

Such as

- How far have you come from 10 years ago?

- Do you have anything new from 10 years ago?

- Have you learned anything new from 10 years ago?

Doing this allows you to see the concrete

You have a lot of success now.

Only before, you probably never cared about it.

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[Summary at the end of the post]

- Worries arise when you're out of the present.

- Meditation training helps stay with the present, but if it's too hard, just don't play on your phone when you eat.

- Spend more time with the person in front of you than the person on screen.

- Comparisons are hard to avoid, but not that they can't.

- Try to reduce screen time and increase real life time (give yourself more time)

- To really compare, compare to yourself (in the past).

- Ask yourself briefly to visualize your success (How far have you come from the beginning)

- Worry is poison. The comparison is cancer. The past is over. The future is not. There is only the present.

I hope it will be useful to friends who are facing anxiety and comparison.

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