Maybe I was when I kept trying to prove my worth to someone who’d already decided it.

But the moment I stopped chasing, I started healing.

Turns out, walking away was never the problem.

Staying was.

2025/12/8 Edited to

... Read moreDealing with emotional abuse can feel incredibly isolating, especially when the abuser makes you question your own worth. In my experience, hearing words like "Maybe you're the problem" from someone I loved was deeply painful and confusing. It took time to realize that their judgment wasn’t a reflection of my true value but rather a projection of their own issues. One important step in healing was recognizing that staying in that toxic environment was doing more harm than good. Often, we convince ourselves that endurance will prove something to the abuser or reunite us with the person we thought they were. But in reality, staying only prolongs the emotional wounds. Walking away was not about giving up; it was about reclaiming my peace and dignity. After I stopped chasing validation from that person, I began to heal. I learned to set boundaries and to prioritize my wellbeing. If you’re facing similar struggles, know that your healing journey is unique and deserves patience. Surround yourself with supportive people and consider professional help if needed. Remember, walking away from abuse is a courageous act of self-love, not a sign of weakness.

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T5

Healing starts 72 hours later, if stops chasing goals, and stop eating,

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Pet Tg

Realised what? Unknown .. Mysterious ..

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