Navigating Hinge as a 32 yr old single mom

Dating as an “over 30” single mom already presents its challenges. Add dating apps to the mix, and it creates a whole new layer of complexity.

Since I have a child that I have to consider, I have come to find that I am very picky when it comes to dating. This is not to say that my standards are not high already, but I want to ensure I am bringing quality suitors into my son’s life.

This post outlines some of the red flags that I have seen on dating apps, and what message they send to me.

When I come across profiles with any of these, it is an immediate no. I don’t want to waste my valuable time and you shouldn’t either!

Even if you are not an “over 30” single mom, these tips can benefit you as well.

#lemon8partner #datingredflags #datingappredflags #datingapps #singlemom

2023/10/20 Edited to

... Read moreNavigating the dating world as a single mom can feel like a whole new ball game, and while my article focused on spotting red flags on Hinge, it's true that the challenges extend to all dating apps – whether it's Tinder, Bumble, or something more niche. Many of us are asking, 'What are the best dating apps for single moms?' From my experience, it's less about the app itself and more about how you use it and what you present. Beyond Hinge, I've found success (and plenty of learning experiences!) on apps like Bumble, where women make the first move, which can filter out some of the 'minimal effort' profiles right from the start. Match.com also tends to attract a slightly older, more serious crowd, which can be a plus when you're dating in your 30s and prioritizing stability for your family. There are even apps specifically for single parents, though their user base can be smaller. It's worth exploring a few to see what 'feels' right for you. When it comes to crafting your own profile, remember that you're looking for someone who understands and respects your life as a mom. I always recommend being open about having children early on – not in a way that makes it your only identity, but as an important part of who you are. This helps weed out those who aren't ready for a family dynamic. Don't fall into the trap of only featuring pictures that are 'heavily focused on appearance' or are just generic selfies. While looking good is great, show off your personality, your hobbies, and what makes you, *you*. A photo with your child (if you're comfortable and mindful of their privacy) or doing an activity you love can speak volumes more than a shirtless gym pic. Variety in your photos is key! And to address that common, nagging thought: 'Are single moms red flags?' Absolutely not! Being a single mom shows incredible strength, resilience, and love. Anyone who sees that as a 'red flag' isn't the right person for you anyway. Own your story! Your profile should reflect your confidence and what you bring to a relationship. I've learned that presenting myself authentically, clearly stating my priorities, and demonstrating my vibrant life makes a huge difference. Just as you'd avoid profiles where all of their pictures are of them 'partying or at a bar', ensure your own photos and prompts reflect a balanced, mature lifestyle. Show you have a fulfilling life, not just wild nights, and that you're ready for a meaningful connection. Finding the right partner when you have kids means being even more intentional. It's about finding someone who complements your life, not complicates it. So, while you're out there looking for red flags in others (like those low-effort profiles or guys whose photos are all about 'partying or at a bar'), remember to also put your best foot forward, authentically and confidently. You deserve a partner who celebrates you, mom life and all! It's all about navigating these apps with purpose, knowing your worth, and trusting your gut.

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