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Is it selfish to want to work like yourself 🌱 a 45-year-old cohabiting couple?

Does everyone like to work?

I don't hate it.

However, there are many things that are not good...

I like the feeling of working until night.

(I like the feeling that there are few overtime workers (laughs))

But I'm not good at morning...

I used to work at a place where I could work even if I had children

But now my child is growing up, independent and...

Why don't you do what you like because you're here for him?

Even though I was told that

For 40 years, I had no choice.

On the contrary, I've been wondering what to do now 💦

I want to work, but I don't think I'll be able to do it anymore

I'm not sure how to work...

Am I the only one in my 40s who thinks that...

5/15 Edited to

... Read more40代になり、子どもが自立したことで、働き方について深く考える機会が増えました。以前は【子供がいても働かせてもらえる場所】を選び、安定や環境重視で働いてきましたが、今はキャリアの選択肢が一変しています。自分が本当に望む働き方、生活スタイルをどうデザインすれば良いか分からず、悩んでいる方は多いのではないでしょうか。 私も朝が苦手で、フルタイムのバリバリキャリアは難しいと感じています。さらに、フルタイムで働かないと罪悪感を感じたり、同時にゆるく生きたい自分との葛藤もありました。彼との同棲生活の中で「好きなことをしていいよ」と言われても、40年間の選択肢の狭さから抜け出せずに迷う日々です。 そんな時、多くの同年代の方々が取り入れているのが「フレキシブルな働き方」や「パートタイム・短時間勤務」、あるいは「好きな趣味やスキルを活かした副業」などです。技術の進歩もありリモートワークが普及した今、自分のペースで仕事する環境も選べるようになりました。 また、心身の健康を保ちながら続けられる仕事を探すことも大切です。例えば、美容室に通ったり、旅行を楽しんだり、自分の暮らしを豊かにする時間を優先しながら働く方法を考えるのも良いでしょう。働く意味ややりがいを自分自身に問い続けることで、少しずつ「自分らしい働き方」の輪郭が見えてきます。 共感できる40代の皆さん、一緒に無理せず自分のペースで「好き」を活かす働き方を探していきませんか?現在の生活や価値観、そしてこれまでの経験すべてを味方にして、新しい挑戦を楽しむ未来が待っています。

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