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control isn’t love

Love should feel safe, respectful and freeing , not like walking on eggshells, losing your voice, or needing permission to be yourself.

Sometimes the hardest part of healing is realising what was called love was actually control.

You deserve relationships where you can breathe, grow and still be you 🤍

#Safe2Grow #CoerciveControl #HealingJourney #KnowYourWorth #HealthyRelationships

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