Friends w/ Ex Is Fine

I know a lot of people say it’s messy, but I honestly think being friends with your ex is okay—if both people have moved on and respect boundaries. Not every breakup ends in drama, sometimes it just didn’t work out romantically.

Of course, it depends on the situation. If there’s still feelings or if it affects your new relationship, that’s a different story. But overall, I don’t think it’s always toxic.

Do you agree, or do you think staying friends with an ex is a red flag?

#AskLemon8 #LetsChat #UnpopularOpinion #RelationshipTalk #GirlTalk

2025/9/10 Edited to

... Read moreMany people find the idea of maintaining a friendship with an ex to be controversial, but it’s important to consider that not all breakups are defined by pain and resentment. The key to a successful friendship after a breakup is mutual respect and emotional closure. When both individuals have truly moved on and no longer harbor romantic feelings, friendship can thrive and even offer valuable support. Setting clear boundaries is essential to avoid misunderstandings. For instance, openly discussing what topics or behaviors might be off-limits can help prevent accidental hurt feelings. It’s also wise to evaluate how this friendship impacts any new romantic relationships. Transparency with new partners about friendships with exes can foster trust and reduce potential tension. It’s worth noting that friendships with exes don’t necessarily mean rekindling romance. Rather, they can be rooted in shared history, respect, and genuine care — qualities that friends cultivate. However, if lingering feelings or jealousy arise, this might signal the need to reassess the friendship. Ultimately, every relationship is unique, and so is every breakup. Some friendships with ex-partners last and bring positivity, while others best serve both parties when they move forward separately. Whether you view being friends with an ex as an "unpopular opinion" or a positive experience often depends on your personal boundaries and emotional readiness to embrace a new dynamic. In the discussion surrounding this topic, it’s clear that friendships with exes can be perfectly fine — and sometimes even beneficial — if approached thoughtfully and with genuine respect for each other's lives moving forward.

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Meh, as someone who still has their 10+ year experience on my socials for life purposes, yall not gonna stay close tbh, we hardly talk anymore and I likw it that way. I wouldn't consider him a friend tho, more like support. I've moved on and am seeing a guy and a girl, naww I dont wanna have more of a connection to my ex thru that tbh, thats weird.

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