What kind of person are you???📝✍🏻
What kind of person are you????🤔🤔🤔
Giver, selfish recipient or exchanger 🔖🔖🔖
"How we treat others may determine success in life more than what we have."
Try to observe the people around you.
Some are always ready to help others, even getting nothing in return.
Some people look at every relationship through the question, "What can I get out of this?"
While some believe that a good relationship should be balanced, as much as it gets, and as much as it gives.
Although these people live in the same society, work in the same organization, or live among the same people, the outcomes they get from life vary strangely.
According to the famous psychologist and author Adam Grant in his book Give and Take, most humans have three main behavioral tendencies: giver, selfish recipient, and exchanger.
Knowing what group we belong to is not meant to divide people into good or bad people, but helps us understand our own motivations and see strengths, weaknesses that can affect life in the long run.
Giver: Someone who creates value for others. 🎁🎁🎐🎐🎐📍
The giver is the one who always thinks
"How can I help him?"
They are willing to share their knowledge, time, experience or opportunities with those around them.
The giver is often the one that friends think of when they are in trouble, the one who is ready to support others, and the one who warms the relationship.
The advantage of givers is that they are easy to build trust and are often loved by people around them.
But at the same time, not many givers feel tired, disappointed, or exploited.
Because they give so much that they forget to take care of themselves
Some people help everyone until they don't have time for themselves.
Some people dare not refuse because they are afraid of upsetting others.
And some people are always so selfless that relationships become more burdensome than happiness.
The giver is therefore not always a successful person.
But it's not always people who fail either.
The difference lies in knowing, determining the extent of giving.
Conscious recipients: people who put their own interests first. 🔬🔭🔮
These people often see the world through the question:
"What can I get out of this?"
They don't always help others because they want to help.
But it will first assess whether the results obtained are worthwhile.
These types of people often prefer to be recognized, prefer to be credited, and often value their own progress over their collective benefit.
In short, they may seem to be successful people.
Because they dare to negotiate, seize opportunities and push themselves.
But over time, people often began to see behavioral patterns that overemphasized their personal interests.
Gradually, trust declined.
And the relationships that used to help support it may gradually disappear.
Finally, what is lost may be more valuable than what is lost.
Exchangers: People who believe in balance. 🛋️🧬🔮
The exchanger believed that
"I will treat you the way you treat me."
If they get help, they feel like recompense.
If they are sincere, they are ready to give their sincerity back.
This group of people value justice and balance in a relationship.
They don't like exploitation, and they don't like disadvantage either.
The advantage is that they often maintain a stable relationship.
But the downside is that sometimes calculating who gives more or less can cause relationships to lack warmth and spontaneity.
So who's the most successful? 🏆🏆🏆
Here are some of the most interesting findings of the Give and Take book.
Many people think that selfish recipients should be the most successful people, because they always reap the benefits for themselves.
But the study found that the highest and lowest in achievement were the same people.
That's "giver."
A failed giver is one who gives everyone nothing to himself.
The successful giver is someone who consciously helps others, who refuses when necessary, and does not let anyone take advantage of their kindness.
In other words,
The problem is not being a giver.
It's about giving without boundaries.
What kind of person are you?
In fact, humans do not belong to any group all the time.
We could be the family giver.
Be an exchanger at work.
And sometimes it can unknowingly become a selfish recipient.
The important thing is not to label yourself.
But it is the realization of what motivation we are living with.
Because as we understand ourselves more, we can build better relationships and make decisions that are consistent with our true values.
Finally..... ✍🏻✍🏻✍🏻📝📝📝
Lasting success is not always due to beating others.
Many times it stems from the ability to create value for the people around them, without giving up their values.
Be a bounded giver.
Be a known recipient, thank you.
And be an exchanger who does not forget mercy.
Because in a competitive world, people who understand the art of giving and receiving in a balanced way are often those who receive both success and happiness along the way.
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