EP20: True Colours When We Talk About Marriage
She dated him for two years, thinking he was the perfect guy, her Mr Right. But it turns out… the story wasn’t what she expected.
Here’s her story:
From the start, my parents weren’t very keen on my boyfriend. Not because of rich or poor, both our families are quite average.
It was because he didn’t really have a stable job. He changed jobs quite often, every 6–12 months. He used to work a normal office job, then became a freelancer.
To my parents, that meant he was unstable and a bit fickle-minded.
But with me? He treated me extremely well.
Peel fruit for me, prep heat pads for me when I have cramps, help with chores, etc.
That’s why I felt he was the one.
Then we started discussing marriage. That’s when things went downhill.
Fast forward to the wedding photos.
We chose one of the cheapest packages because his family said:
“Aiya, wedding photos nobody will see one. Just take can already.”
He agreed and added,
“All the same what. Why need to pay so much?”
I tried to insist, because pre-wedding photos are our memories. Something we look back on for life.
But he dismissed it with,
“So expensive, no point.”
And before the wedding, the cracks really started showing.
He and his family began complaining about every little cost, from the banquet tables to the gowns, like everything was an unnecessary expense.
Even when it came to choosing the makeup artist, photographer, videographer, he didn’t want to engage anyone of them because
He kept saying "Need meh, we ourselves happy can alr."
That’s when I slowly realised…
He wasn’t the “perfect guy” I thought he was. He didn’t even plan to listen to my thoughts and simply dismissed everything.
Discussing marriage often brings unexpected challenges, and it can reveal aspects of a partner’s character not seen before. From my own experience and many shared stories, it’s common that financial priorities and communication styles become major factors during wedding preparations. Many couples face disagreements on budgeting for the wedding, like whether to invest in quality pre-wedding photos or hiring professional vendors. These moments highlight how each person values memories, traditions, and respect for one another’s opinions. It’s important to have open and honest conversations early on about expectations. Sometimes, family influences and cultural beliefs add pressure and differing viewpoints, which can cause tension if not addressed together. Learning to listen, compromise, and support each other throughout the planning process can strengthen relationships, or it can expose incompatibilities that were hidden before. True colors often show when finances, future plans, and responsibilities come into focus. Remember, it’s not just about the big day but about building a life together with mutual understanding and respect. Taking time to understand your partner’s thoughts on stability, commitment, and shared goals can save heartbreak later.
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