What are Red Flags and Green Flags?

The World of Relationships: Episode...What are Red Flags and Green Flags?

"Is he answering a slow chat like this, Red Flag?"

"Does he indulge us in anything like this, Green Flag?"

Many people are believed to have heard the words Red Flags (Red Flags = Alarm) and Green Flags (Green Flags = Positive Signs) through their eyes, especially in an age when people knew each other through social media or dating apps.

But sometimes we inadvertently judge a small behavior as a Red Flag, even though it may actually be a personal habit, or vice versa, we may overlook an important alarm because the feeling is navigating.

Today, let's try to understand it in a simple way, but psychology is better supported.

What are Red Flags?

Red Flags are warning signs that a relationship may have problems in the future or behavior that negatively affects our health.

The key word is "may."

Because Red Flag is not a judgment that the other is a bad person, but an information that should be taken into account.

A common Red Flags example.

• No respect for personal boundaries (Boundary - Boundary = Personal boundaries)

Like watching the phone all the time, forcing you to report every move.

• regularly insult or value the other person

It may seem like a joke at first, but if you make the other person feel impaired, that's not funny.

• Always throw guilt on others

The ex-boyfriend is wrong, the friend is wrong, the boss is wrong, the world is wrong, but he is never wrong.

• Excessive control

Let's start with "worry" and gradually develop into "don't go anywhere."

• In other words, you can't be trusted.

What are Green Flags?

Green Flags are positive signs that represent the potential for a good, respectful, understanding and ready relationship to grow together.

Green Flags sample

• Listen to different opinions

• Respect each other's personal space

• Communicate honestly

Good Communication (Communication = Communication) does not mean not to fight, but to talk to each other when there is a problem.

• Dare to admit when wronged

• Make us feel emotionally safe

Emotional Safety (Emotional Safety = Emotional Safety)

So how does it look like it's Red Flag or Green Flag?

Many relationship psychologists recommend looking at "behavior patterns" rather than looking at a single event.

Because all humans have tired days, missed days, and bad emotional days.

Answering a chat a day late can be just a job addict.

But if missing for weeks every time there is a problem, that can be a form of avoiding emotional responsibility.

Likewise.

Buying flowers every week doesn't always mean it's a Green Flag.

Because the true Green Flag is measured by the regularity of action, not the magnificence of surprise.

Another precaution.

Don't keep looking for other people's Red Flags until you forget to check your own Red Flags.

Because a good relationship is not about finding the perfect person.

It is caused by two people who are ready to learn, grow and adapt.

After all...

Red Flags aren't meant to rush everyone away.

Green Flags are also not meant to rush to fall in love with everyone.

Both are just information that helps us understand the people in front of us more.

Because in the world of relationships,

Sometimes the most important thing is not to ask, "What kind of person is he?"

But is to ask yourself

"When we're with him, are we a better version of ourselves?"

And if the answer is "yes,"

That's probably the most valuable Green Flag, then.

P.S. If you have to watch Red Flags every day like a traffic officer, maybe what should be checked is not his flag, but our fatigue. 😆

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