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It’s called gaslighting

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse

2025/3/3 Edited to

Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic frequently employed by narcissists to distort reality and make victims question their own judgment. Narcissists want you to believe you are the CRAZY one, undermining your confidence and mental health. Recognizing the signs of gaslighting is crucial for those experiencing narcissistic abuse. Victims may feel confused, anxious, and isolated due to the constant second-guessing. It's essential to understand that you are not at fault, and support networks can help. Different methods of gaslighting include denial of reality, trivializing emotions, and blame-shifting. To combat this, maintaining a record of abusive incidents can help affirm your perspective and validate your feelings. Additionally, seeking professional help can provide a safe space to explore these dynamics and formulate a plan for recovery. Remember, awareness is the first step towards breaking free from the cycle of emotional abuse and regaining your self-worth.

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