Losing loved ones before significant moments in our lives is one of the deepest pains we can face. From personal experience, I’ve found that while their physical absence feels overwhelming, keeping their memory alive during joyful milestones can provide a unique comfort. This is especially true during an IVF journey, which is often filled with anticipation, uncertainty, and hope. I imagine loved ones who have passed away would be celebrating quietly alongside us, already connected to the new life growing just as the original author expresses — "I know they have squeezed my baby before it ever got to me." One practical way to honor their presence is by creating small rituals, such as lighting a candle on special days or sharing stories about them when announcing the pregnancy. It helps bridge the gap between grief and joy, reminding us that love transcends time. Moreover, joining support groups or online forums like #lifeafterloss and #grief can connect you with others who understand this bittersweet journey. Many find solace in sharing their feelings openly, which lessens the isolation that grief often brings. As challenging as it is, embracing these feelings honestly can lead to healing and a renewed sense of connection. For those undergoing IVF, these emotional ups and downs are compounded; the excitement of the new life intertwines with memories of those no longer here. From my experience, incorporating gratitude practices that acknowledge both loss and hope can create emotional balance. Write letters to loved ones, envisioning their joy about your baby, or keep a journal to process feelings daily. Ultimately, this journey reminds us how intertwined life and loss truly are. While the absence of grandparents or family members during celebrations hurts deeply, their love remains a guiding light. Their memory becomes a source of strength and motivation to move forward, treasure every moment, and celebrate new beginnings even amidst grief.