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It’s time to unlearn this 👇🏻

The size and shape of your body has NOTHING to do with your moral worth, or your value.

Now go look in the mirror and say that to yourself.

I know society tells you different. But that’s what we’re here to unlearn.

Our society puts a lot of value on “perfection”. Well, we have to unlearn that, too. Which is why I created #unperfectyou 🥰🫶

what do you place a lot of pressure on yourself to be perfect at? 👇🏻

#embracevulnerability #bodyimage #bodyimagehealing #plussize #bodyneutrality #bodyneutral #fatphobia

2024/4/18 Edited to

In a world obsessed with ideals of beauty, it’s important to recognize that body size does not define or equate to one's value. Embracing vulnerability and body neutrality can contribute to better mental health. Participating in communities such as #unperfectyou encourages individuals to share their stories and support each other in embracing imperfections. Learning to challenge fatphobia and societal norms can empower incalculable individuals. Resources that promote self-love and body image healing are available to guide those on their journey towards self-acceptance. Engaging in discussions around body positivity helps foster a more inclusive society where all body types are celebrated. Let’s redefine what it means to be ‘perfect’ by prioritizing individual worth over outward appearances.

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