18 years with a spinal cord injury

I had to pull out my calculator for this one because the math just didn’t seem real. 🧮

I was 18 years old when a car accident changed my life forever on March 23, 2008.

Today, I’ve officially lived as many years with a disability as I lived without one. 18 years on my feet, 18 years sitting strong.

Looking back at the girl I was that day, I have a lot to tell her.

I used to think I’d tell her to stay home and skip the drive that made her disabled. But 18 years later, knowing what I know and having what I have? I truly believe that accident saved my life.

I’m sharing the full 18-vs-18 breakdown—and the letter to my younger self—on the blog today. 🔗 Link in Bio!

Wish me a happy “Non-Deathiversary” (shoutout to @kerryjean_ for that term!)

#18YearsStrong #LifeDay #SpinalCordInjury #LifeAfterSCI

3/24 Edited to

... Read moreLiving with a spinal cord injury for nearly two decades has taught me invaluable lessons about resilience, hope, and redefining personal strength. When I was 18, the accident felt like a devastating end, especially when people said my life was "over." The years that followed were filled with challenges, but also moments of growth and discovery. One of the biggest shifts for me was understanding that my identity was not solely defined by my physical abilities. Instead, I learned to embrace my new way of living—transforming from someone who stood and walked to someone who sits strong and lives fully. Every day brought new opportunities to explore what life means beyond mobility. The term "Non-Deathiversary" perfectly captures the mindset of celebrating survival and gratitude rather than mourning loss. Each year, I reflect on the road from being on my feet to living with a spinal cord injury and realize how much wisdom and compassion have grown within me. I encourage others facing similar injuries or life-altering events to find their own sources of strength and meaning. Support networks, adaptive technology, and personal goals are key pillars. Sharing stories like mine helps break stigma and offers solidarity. Finally, I've come to see that the accident, difficult as it was, provided a new path that ultimately saved my life in unexpected ways—opening perspectives, relationships, and experiences I never anticipated. This journey redefines what it means to be truly alive, and I am proud to celebrate 18 years sitting strong and hopeful for the future.

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