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How to tell an avoidant, they’re avoidant

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This image, titled 'SELF-REGULATE', lists common avoidant triggers such as partners wanting closeness or unpredictable situations. It also provides 'DOs and DON'Ts' for self-regulation, advising seeking support and expressing needs.

Titled 'COMMUNICATE', this image advises communicating needs early, including having avoidant attachment and needing space. It also suggests telling partners about wounds and triggers to foster understanding and collaboration.

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