I have absolutely no idea how I became the unofficial Life Guru at work. 😂
Maybe it's because folks see me walking in on Sundays from church. Maybe it's because I sit by myself, mind my business, and stay far away from workplace drama like it's a clearance sale on bad decisions.
Could be the gray hairs.
Could be that I'm in my season of semi-isolation and they don't see my invisible force field, 🤷🏽♂️
Or maybe it's because I've mastered the spiritual gift of correcting somebody without cussing, yelling, or catching a write-up. 🤣
Whatever the reason, people are always stopping by my desk asking questions about life, relationships, faith, and everything in between.
Today a conversation started about dating in church.
One of the ladies said, "There aren't any real men in church anymore. They're all feminine."
I laughed and said, "Sis... have you spoken to any of them?"
The breakroom got quiet.
Then I asked, "How many conversations have you started? How many coffees have you invited somebody to? How many men have you shown genuine interest in?"
More silence.
Now before somebody starts throwing church fans at me, hear me out.
A lot of people pray for opportunities they refuse to participate in.
They'll ask God for a spouse but won't speak or maintain connection.
Ask God for a job but won't apply.
Ask God for financial increase but won't learn anything about money.
Then get mad because Heaven didn't FedEx the blessing to their front door.
The Bible is full of women who moved toward what they were believing God for.
Ruth positioned herself and ended up meeting Boaz.
The woman with the issue of blood pushed through the crowd to get to Jesus.
Rebekah didn't hide in the house waiting on destiny to kick in the door.
Faith wasn't passive. Faith moved.
James 2:17 says, "Faith without works is dead."
That's not God being mean. That's God teaching us partnership.
And here's the uncomfortable truth...
The church often reflects the culture sitting inside it.
Some people want traditional values with modern convenience.
They want a husband who leads, protects, provides, and pursues...
...while refusing to be approachable, honest, friendly, or intentional.
That's like praying for a harvest while refusing to plant a seed.
Listen, if that man is kind, godly, employed, emotionally stable, and looks anything close to what you've been praying for...
Walk over there.
Say hello.
Invite him for coffee.
The worst thing he can say is no.
The best thing he can say might be the answer to a prayer you've been praying for years.
Because prayer is powerful...
But prayer with action is biblical. 🙌🏾😂
Over the years, I've noticed that faith and action go hand in hand, especially when it comes to relationships within the church. Many people wish for meaningful connections but often overlook the necessary steps to build them. For instance, simply attending church and praying for the right partner isn't enough. In my experience, approaching someone with genuine interest—whether it's starting a conversation or inviting them for coffee—can open doors that prayer alone won't. It's about showing kindness, being approachable, and embodying the values we seek in others. This proactive mindset aligns closely with James 2:17, which reminds us that "faith without works is dead." Also, the scriptures offer powerful examples: Ruth took initiative by positionally engaging with Boaz, and the woman with the issue of blood pushed through crowds to reach Jesus. These stories reinforce that faith includes movement and courage. I've found that many people get caught up in expectations shaped by both traditional and modern ideals, wanting partners who lead and provide yet forgetting the importance of being open and friendly themselves. That disconnect often stalls progress. On a personal level, embracing the balance of prayer and action transformed how I approach challenges and relationships. By planting seeds through intentional communication and staying humble and patient, the blessings often come in ways we hadn't anticipated. Remember, the church atmosphere often reflects the culture within it—so by fostering genuine connections and stepping out with faith-driven actions, we cultivate a community where real relationships can flourish. Don't hesitate to make the first move; sometimes, the answer to your prayers is just a conversation away.
