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To moms who blame themselves for their children.

For 19 years,

as a speech therapist, i work with many children

I've been involved.

I've felt it many times in that.

The same me,

involved in the same way,

The speed of change in children is truly different.

One articulation (pronunciation),

After only giving you a few tips,

There are children who can say it quickly,

Even if you practice every day

Some children learn little by little over a year.

So i.

Just the child's current appearance,

I don't think it's possible to evaluate parent involvement.

Parents involvement is important, of course.

But, uh,

That alone does not determine the appearance of the child.

If now,

If you're blaming yourself for saying "I wonder if my relationship is bad,"

Please.

Just by the speed of the child's growth,

Don't put an x on your parenting.

Your child.

Have you ever experienced something that took longer than you thought?

May your parenting be a little easier 🌱

# parenting # Childcare Speech therapist The development # 3 years old 4 years old 5 years old

7/31 Edited to

... Read more子どもの言葉の発達には本当に個人差があります。私も実際に言語聴覚士として多くの子どもたちと関わる中で、一人ひとりの成長スピードが全く異なることを実感してきました。たとえば、構音の練習でも、短期間で上達する子もいれば、毎日根気よく続けて数年かけて少しずつ習得する子もいます。これは決して親の接し方の良し悪しで決まるものではなく、子どもの気質や環境、遺伝的な要素など多くの条件が影響しています。 私が大切にしているのは、子どもの「その子らしい育ち」を尊重し、比べずに見守ることです。子どもの発言や行動にすぐに結果を求めてしまいがちですが、焦らず、毎日の小さな関わりの積み重ねが成長につながります。そして、もし自分の子育てに不安を感じても、自分を責めすぎず、時には周りの専門家や支援者に助けを求めることも大切です。 また、子どもが「言うことを聞いてくれない」「おとなしすぎる」などの悩みを抱えるママは多いですが、これも一様ではありません。その子の性格や発達段階に合わせた声かけや環境作りを工夫することで、徐々に良い変化を感じられるようになります。 私自身も3児の母として、悩むことも多いですが、時間がかかっても焦らず見守ることで子どものペースで成長を感じられる喜びを知りました。子どものことで自分を責めてしまうママたちが、少しでも負担を減らし、心穏やかに子育てを続けられるよう願っています。ぜひこの記事をきっかけに、子どもの成長に寄り添う優しい視点を持ってみてください。

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