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Why is self-esteem low?

"Why do I have low self-esteem?"

"Why can't I like myself?"

Have you ever thought so?

There's a good reason for that 💡

And it's not your fault

because of past experience.

Let's look at it together today ✨

Cause 1: Childhood experience

Self affirmation is

is formed in childhood.

▷ Low experience

・ I was not praised

It was denied.

I was called a "bad child."

Conditional love (if you love)

Compared (with brothers)

・ I could not live up to expectations

Ignored.

・ Abuse and neglect

In these experiences.

i'm not worth it.

It s not worth being loved.

"I am a bad person."

I'm convinced that

Then self-esteem is low 💦

in psychology

is explained by attachment theory.

▷ Secure attachment

He was loved unconditionally.

Accepted.

· It was good as it is

High self-esteem

▷ Unstable attachment

Conditional love.

I was rejected.

It was denied.

Self-esteem is low.

my childhood experience

It affects you right now.

Cause 2: Comparative Culture

Japan is a comparative culture.

▷ School

The score of the test.

Report table

・ Ranking

Deviation value

Always be compared.

▷ Society

・ Educational background

・ Company name

・ Annual income

Are you married?

Do you have children?

Always be compared.

▷ SNS

Number of followers.

Number of likes

・ Sparkling life

Everyone is amazing.

Always be compared.

When compared...

"I am inferior."

I'm no good.

Below everyone else.

I'm convinced that

Self-esteem is lower 💦

growing up in a comparative culture

Self-esteem tends to be low

[Cause 3: Imprinting Perfectionism]

Japanese Society Characteristics

Perfection is required.

Mistakes are not allowed.

do it properly.

・ "Be firm"

▷ Home

get 100 points.

Be number one.

Do it perfectly.

▷ School

・ If you make a mistake, X

Perfection is natural.

Failure is embarrassing.

▷ Workplace

Mistakes are not allowed.

The perfect job.

・ To the details

imprinted with perfectionism

It has to be perfect.

If you fail, you are not worth it.

"70% of myself cannot be recognized."

I'm convinced that

Self-esteem is lower 💦

I'm not perfect

will not be recognized.

[Cause 4: Desire for approval]

What is the desire for approval?

the desire to be recognized by others

▷ Healthy desire for approval

I want to be recognized in moderation

But I can recognize myself

▷ Unhealthy desire for approval

Evaluation of others = own value

Anxious when not praised

I get depressed when there are few likes

Causes to become unhealthy

It was not approved in childhood.

It was conditional love.

I can't recognize myself by myself

If you have a strong desire for approval

be swayed by the evaluation of others

Low evaluation = not worth it

Self-esteem is lower 💦

When it comes to the axis of others

Self-esteem is unstable

[Cause 5: Inner child wound]

What is Inner Child?

My childhood self in my heart

Wounded inner child

I was not loved.

I was abandoned.

It was denied.

I was abused.

Ignored.

If you stay hurt, even when you grow up

"I will not be loved."

i'm not worth it.

i'm no good.

I keep thinking

Self-esteem remains low 💦

When you heal your inner child

Self-esteem goes up

Characteristics of people with low self-esteem

Check it out ☝️

It's easy to blame yourself.

□ Perfectionism

Compare with others.

□ I can't believe it even if I'm praised

Fear of failure.

□ I can't say NO

□ put yourself off

□ Strong desire for approval

□ Ask a person's complexion

□ I can't express my opinion

The more numbers that apply

Low self-esteem 💦

Why is it important to know the cause?

If you know the cause

Can deal with

・ Can be changed

You don t have to blame yourself.

I understand that it's not my fault

Knowing the cause is the first step ✨

On Friday, I will tell you "7 Works to Gently Raise Self-esteem" ✨

On this account.

▷ Tips for changing "strictness" to "kindness"

▷ How to regain your axis

▷ Psychology × Self-care that can be practiced immediately

We are sending out such 🕊️

　

Let's spend a peaceful day together 🧸🫶

Self-affirmation Psychology # mental _ health # inner _ child The Perfectionism

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自己肯定感が低い人の特徴は多様ですが、共通して見られるのは「自分を責めやすい」「完璧主義」「他人と比較しやすい」などです。これらは日常生活でのストレスや不安を増幅させることもあります。私自身、完璧主義が強く、少しでも失敗すると自己否定しがちでした。しかしこの心理状態を理解し、原因である過去の体験や周囲の期待を知ることで少しずつ楽になれました。自己肯定感は一朝一夕に変わるものではありませんが、原因を認識し向き合うことが大切です。また、日本の社会や学校では比較が多い環境が続きがちで、これも自己肯定感を下げる一因となります。SNSの影響も無視できません。私はSNSの投稿と自分を比べて落ち込むこともありますが、それが万人にとって当たり前ではないことに気づくと気持ちが軽くなります。承認欲求が強くなると、他人の評価に振り回されやすくなり、不安定になります。自分の価値を他人の眼で決めないためには、心の中のインナーチャイルドを癒すことも効果的です。このように、多くの原因が絡みあって自己肯定感の低さを生み出しています。原因を知り、ゆっくりと向き合うことで心が楽になり、自分を大切にできるようになります。一人で抱え込まず、自分に優しく接していきましょう。

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