Why is self-esteem low?

"Why do I have low self-esteem?"

"Why can't I like myself?"

Have you ever thought so?

There's a good reason for that 💡

And it's not your fault

because of past experience.

Let's look at it together today ✨

Cause 1: Childhood experience

Self affirmation is

is formed in childhood.

▷ Low experience

・ I was not praised

It was denied.

I was called a "bad child."

Conditional love (if you love)

Compared (with brothers)

・ I could not live up to expectations

Ignored.

・ Abuse and neglect

In these experiences.

i'm not worth it.

It s not worth being loved.

"I am a bad person."

I'm convinced that

Then self-esteem is low 💦

in psychology

is explained by attachment theory.

▷ Secure attachment

He was loved unconditionally.

Accepted.

· It was good as it is

High self-esteem

▷ Unstable attachment

Conditional love.

I was rejected.

It was denied.

Self-esteem is low.

my childhood experience

It affects you right now.

Cause 2: Comparative Culture

Japan is a comparative culture.

▷ School

The score of the test.

Report table

・ Ranking

Deviation value

Always be compared.

▷ Society

・ Educational background

・ Company name

・ Annual income

Are you married?

Do you have children?

Always be compared.

▷ SNS

Number of followers.

Number of likes

・ Sparkling life

Everyone is amazing.

Always be compared.

When compared...

"I am inferior."

I'm no good.

Below everyone else.

I'm convinced that

Self-esteem is lower 💦

growing up in a comparative culture

Self-esteem tends to be low

[Cause 3: Imprinting Perfectionism]

Japanese Society Characteristics

Perfection is required.

Mistakes are not allowed.

do it properly.

・ "Be firm"

▷ Home

get 100 points.

Be number one.

Do it perfectly.

▷ School

・ If you make a mistake, X

Perfection is natural.

Failure is embarrassing.

▷ Workplace

Mistakes are not allowed.

The perfect job.

・ To the details

imprinted with perfectionism

It has to be perfect.

If you fail, you are not worth it.

"70% of myself cannot be recognized."

I'm convinced that

Self-esteem is lower 💦

I'm not perfect

will not be recognized.

[Cause 4: Desire for approval]

What is the desire for approval?

the desire to be recognized by others

▷ Healthy desire for approval

I want to be recognized in moderation

But I can recognize myself

▷ Unhealthy desire for approval

Evaluation of others = own value

Anxious when not praised

I get depressed when there are few likes

Causes to become unhealthy

It was not approved in childhood.

It was conditional love.

I can't recognize myself by myself

If you have a strong desire for approval

be swayed by the evaluation of others

Low evaluation = not worth it

Self-esteem is lower 💦

When it comes to the axis of others

Self-esteem is unstable

[Cause 5: Inner child wound]

What is Inner Child?

My childhood self in my heart

Wounded inner child

I was not loved.

I was abandoned.

It was denied.

I was abused.

Ignored.

If you stay hurt, even when you grow up

"I will not be loved."

i'm not worth it.

i'm no good.

I keep thinking

Self-esteem remains low 💦

When you heal your inner child

Self-esteem goes up

Characteristics of people with low self-esteem

Check it out ☝️

It's easy to blame yourself.

□ Perfectionism

Compare with others.

□ I can't believe it even if I'm praised

Fear of failure.

□ I can't say NO

□ put yourself off

□ Strong desire for approval

□ Ask a person's complexion

□ I can't express my opinion

The more numbers that apply

Low self-esteem 💦

Why is it important to know the cause?

If you know the cause

Can deal with

・ Can be changed

You don t have to blame yourself.

I understand that it's not my fault

Knowing the cause is the first step ✨

On Friday, I will tell you "7 Works to Gently Raise Self-esteem" ✨

On this account.

▷ Tips for changing "strictness" to "kindness"

▷ How to regain your axis

▷ Psychology × Self-care that can be practiced immediately

We are sending out such 🕊️

Let's spend a peaceful day together 🧸🫶

Self-affirmation Psychology # mental _ health # inner _ child The Perfectionism