My mother-in-law's appeal phone! What are you trying to say?
The other day, my mother-in-law sent it to my children
And when I sent that package,
① My mother-in-law contacted my husband saying, "I sent a package today!"
② My mother-in-law contacted my husband the night before the package arrived (there was an incoming call during a meal with my family) → My husband ignored the phone! After that, my mother-in-law called me, but last year there were various things with my parents-in-law, so I wanted to keep a distance from my parents-in-law, so I did not answer the phone!
After that, my husband immediately called back to my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law said,
He said, "I'll send fruit and a package with pocket money for my grandchildren tomorrow."
If it's normal emotions, I'd be grateful too! I think so, but since I've endured things that I can't think of ever since I got married,
"Huh? Are you appealing to me again??,"、、、、This time, "I'm appealing for pocket money!!!By the way, you'll understand when the package arrives, right? Why? Do you appeal so much?? "I thought in my heart,、、
Children also don't like their parents-in-law! Or rather, they don't want to see them!!!It is the end to say.
From the beginning of our marriage, I was told by my mother-in-law, especially every time I went home to my husband's parents' house,、、
Every time I say in my heart, "No! I live 12 hours away by car and take care of my parents-in-law!、、It's impossible! "I think every time!
Speaking of which, what do you want to appeal to my mother-in-law?
Every time my mother-in-law bought a toy! I gave you pocket money! I bought sweets! The appeal is really irritating! Do you bother saying that? It's like that!
In the end, the children and their parents-in-law went to a crane game! When the game was finished with the grandchildren, the wallet became hollow!
What about parents-in-law who do not have a good influence on their grandchildren? I do not understand at all because it is a feeling that my mother and father do not have!
義母からの頻繁な連絡やプレゼントは、表面的には『孫への思いやり』のように見えますが、実際には「自分がしてあげている」というアピールの意味合いが強く感じられることがあります。私自身も似たような経験があり、義母から贈り物の報告やお小遣いを渡した旨の連絡が度々届きました。しかし、それが感謝ではなく、義務や自己満足の表現と感じられてしまうと、精神的な負担に繋がることがあります。 このような行動は、義母が自分の役割や存在価値を家族の中で認識してもらいたい、または相手に感謝を促したいという心理の表れかもしれません。特に、義母との関係にトラブルや距離を置きたい事情があれば、そのアピールは押し付けがましく感じられ、ストレスになることも。 また、子供たちが義両親に会いたがらないのは、義母側の過度な干渉や価値観の押し付けが原因のことも多いです。子供に億劫な思いをさせないためにも、義両親との距離感を慎重に調整することが大切です。私の経験から言うと、旦那さんも理解者として間に立ち、義母とのコミュニケーションを調整することが必要不可欠です。 さらに、『クレーンゲームで孫に罪悪感を抱かせる』という行動は、無意識のうちに子供たちの心理に負の影響を及ぼし、家族の信頼関係に亀裂を生む可能性があります。こんな時こそ、義両親との気持ちやルールのすり合わせを家族内でしっかり話し合い、負担や不快感を減らす努力が重要です。 結婚生活やファミリー関係は複雑で、特に義理家族との関係は一筋縄ではいかないことが多いですが、無理に我慢せず、自分たち家族のペースやルールを大切にしていくことが、心の安定にも繋がると実感しています。義母の『してあげてるアピール』に対して感じるモヤモヤやストレスは、あなた1人の問題ではありません。ネットやカウンセリング、友人への相談などで気持ちを整理してみるのもおすすめです。
