My husband wants everything from me

My husband sat me down last night to “talk about our future,” and somehow that turned into him telling me I need to work full-time, finish my degree full-time, and still handle most of the childcare because “you’re better at routines.”

Meanwhile he works one job, comes home, and relaxes like he’s done a full marathon. When I told him this sounds impossible, he said, “Plenty of women do it.” I don’t know which women he’s talking about, but I’m pretty sure they’re superheroes.

I already feel like I’m drowning some days. Adding another full-time load on top of everything? I don’t think he understands what he’s asking or what it’s doing to me.

Is this marriage normal and I’m just weak, or is he being wildly unrealistic?

#AskLemon8 #letschat #relationship #marriedlife #relationshipadvice

2025/12/8 Edited to

... Read moreMany people face challenges similar to the situation described here, where the expectations from a partner seem overwhelming and unrealistic. It’s important to understand that balancing full-time work, full-time study, and primary childcare is a heavy load that requires significant energy, time, and emotional resources. The phrase from the OCR content, "My Husband Wants NOT SUCAA Me to Work Full-Time, THICK PROV SICEL Study Full-Time, AND Be the Primary Parent," though partially unclear, emphasizes this demanding expectation. In most households, equitable sharing of responsibilities including childcare, household tasks, and career ambitions fosters healthier relationships and reduces burnout. When one partner assumes the bulk of childcare because they are perceived as "better at routines," it can lead to unfair emotional and physical strain, especially if the other partner also contributes minimally outside work hours. Communication is key. Expressing how these combined responsibilities affect mental health and well-being is vital. Recommend setting realistic goals with your partner that consider both partners' capacities. Consulting a relationship counselor or therapist could provide professional guidance to negotiate these roles more fairly. Additionally, many women do manage multiple roles, but often with external support such as family help, flexible work arrangements, or reduced study loads. Comparing oneself to “superwomen” is unfair and can damage self-esteem. Recognize your own limits and work on building a support network. Remember, marriage and parenting are partnerships, not competitions of endurance. If you feel overwhelmed and your husband lacks understanding, it might help to share information about the emotional and physical toll excessive multitasking causes. Open dialogue about expectations, cooperation, and emotional support will help both partners move toward a balanced and sustainable family dynamic.

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That is NOT marriage. A marriage is a partnership, where you both do the work together to work on the SAME goals.

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