🫶🌸WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE A DATE?🌸🫶

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... Read moreHey y'all, that question about 'WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE A DATE?' really hits home for so many of us, doesn't it? After reading about that sweet park outing with board games and even a Reese's, it got me thinking deeply about what truly defines a date in today's world. It's not always as clear-cut as it used to be, and that's where a lot of us get confused about 'what counts as a date.' For me, the biggest factor in determining 'what makes a date a date' often comes down to intent. Was it explicitly stated? Did one person ask the other out with the intention of it being a romantic encounter, or at least a chance to explore romantic potential? Sometimes, if someone just says, 'Let's hang out,' it can feel more like a friendly get-together, even if the activities are totally date-worthy like a picnic or mini-golf. I've definitely been in situations where I thought it was a casual friend thing, and then realized later there might have been deeper intentions on the other side – or vice versa! It’s like, was this a 'romantic date meaning' kind of situation, or just friends enjoying time together? Another key aspect I always look at is effort and planning. Who initiated the outing? Was there thoughtful planning involved, like suggesting specific activities or putting together a cute picnic basket, rather than just a last-minute 'what are you doing?' text? When someone goes out of their way to plan something special, like bringing a favorite candy (Reese's, a great touch!) or a personalized gift, it definitely leans more towards 'what is considered a date' in my book. It shows they've put thought into making the experience meaningful for *you*, which is a hallmark of a date. The nature of the activities also plays a role, though it's not the only factor. While dinner and a movie are classic, a park outing with board games and a picnic can absolutely be a date! It's about the shared experience and the focus on getting to know each other better, rather than just the activity itself. The setting often helps set the mood too. A quiet walk in a park or a cozy coffee shop encourages conversation and connection, which is what 'dating' is all about. Finally, the vibe and conversation are huge for me. If the conversation is deep, personal, and aimed at discovering more about each other beyond superficial topics, that's a strong indicator. If there's flirting, sustained eye contact, and a general feeling of romantic interest or anticipation, then yes, 'what qualifies as a date' is likely being met. And receiving a stuffed bunny because it's their nickname for you? That's definitely a sweet, personal gesture that screams romantic interest and makes it feel very much like a date! So, to all of you wondering 'what defines a date,' remember it's a mix of intent, effort, the activities, and the overall emotional connection. There's no single rulebook, but these clues can help you figure it out. What are your personal rules for 'what constitutes as a date'? I'm so curious to hear your thoughts and experiences!

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It definitely sounds like a date activity. For me a date though requires that the other person (or myself) officially asks other out on a date. But that may just be me :)

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That was definitely a date

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