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The Let Them Theory Review

Yay! I finally finished this book. It took me a long time to finish reading “The Let Them Theory”, one of the most popular books in the era of self-love. Although “Let Them” reminds us that some things are beyond our control, “Let Me” is also a basic human need.

I would like to thank “Mel Robbins” for writing such a heartfelt book that shares a meaningful idea for all human beings, especially someone like me who used to be a people pleaser.

This book is not only about the “Let Them” and “Let Me” theories, but also talks about how to give advice to people we love and want to help change their habits that will improve their lives. For instance, it helps you decide whether something is a deal-breaker if something bothers you so much and you cannot bear it anymore.

Moreover, I enjoyed reading this book, especially when I felt frustrated, when my insomnia kicked in, or whenever I needed a little peace. Honestly, it took me more than six months to finish this book. I kept thinking about “Let Me” read another book instead of reading this book sometimes. (It’s not easy to stay focused on a 320-page book.)🌝

I knew it was such a fantastic book that might change my life. I am truly glad I read it. Honestly, it took me so long to finish that I almost forgot what I had learned by the end. Maybe it changed my micro-habits in ways I never noticed.🌚

P.S. Thank you ChatGPT Plus for helping me correct my grammar through more than 10 drafts. 🙏🏼

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