In my journey with polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM), I've realized that compersion—the joy one feels when a partner experiences happiness with another—is often misunderstood as a skill to be mastered. But from personal experience, it's more about emotional honesty and acceptance. Rather than forcing yourself to feel only happiness or compersion, it's okay to acknowledge when you feel neutral or even unsettled. These feelings are normal and part of the growth process. One important lesson is to stop viewing compersion as a checkbox or a trait one must develop perfectly. Instead, approach your emotions with kindness and without judgment. This mindset helps create more authentic relationships and reduces pressure on yourself. Also, sharing your true feelings with partners fosters trust and connection. If you're exploring polyamory or ENM, try to embrace whatever feelings arise without guilt. Remember that compersion isn't a fixed skill but an evolving emotional experience. Being honest about your feelings—happy, neutral, or uneasy—helps you navigate complex relationships with more self-awareness and compassion. In my experience, this approach not only enriches my polyamorous relationships but also deepens my self-understanding. Emotional honesty and acceptance are key to truly thriving in non-monogamous dynamics.