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1 year ago
My son, who just graduated from high school and got a job, said he was getting married.
She was the same age as me at the time.
It was a pleasure, but I opposed it.
This is due to the old ideas of Japanese society that are still missing, but if a new graduate woman who has not yet established a position at work or a relationship with the surroundings, let alone an 18-year-old woman gets married, it is possible that she will get pregnant quickly.
Marriage of a woman who has rights but is not used to work is not received well from the people at work.
Even if you get pregnant and quit, it's impossible to raise a child with one son earning 230,000 new graduates a month
After considering everything, I did not overturn the opinion that "I will divorce soon."
However, 18-year-olds are adults and can easily get married if they have a guarantor.
I was forced to break through the marriage and left it without saying anything or contacting me.
A girl was born in November last year, but even that was just because the icon of the line was a child, so I realized.
And yesterday morning
Call from an unknown phone number.
If you call me back somehow
Son: I don't know if you remember, but I'm... 〇〇
Me → Yeah (I'm not so serious as to forget the child I gave birth to (lol))
Son: "I'm going to divorce, so I'll be the guarantor of the house.
Me: Um... huh? What are the reasons for divorce and what about the children?
My son had an affair with his partner four times. The child became a wife
Me: What about evidence and lawyers? What about claims for alimony?
Son: I have proof that I can't ask a lawyer because I don't have money, but some friends say I'm gray
Go to Torima Law Terrace! Do you understand the other person?
My son had an affair with a senior at my company. I didn't like it and quit my job.
Does the president know that I quit because of that?
My son didn't tell the president.
I quit, but that's okay for the president. If you've been at the same job for more than a year, you can apply for unemployment insurance.
Son, I understand.
I talked to various other people and ended it by saying that I can only give advice, but don't do things properly.
I was only relied on as a guarantor for the house, but in the first place, secure a house to escape before quitting my job...
In a year, the other party was the same four times and had an affair and forgave it three times... I thought.
I expected it because I thought it was an insane wife because I did not have a wedding greeting (because I gave it to my son-in-law) when I came to play at home.
息子が若くして結婚を決めたとき、私も含め周囲はその決断に戸惑いを感じました。特にまだ社会に出たばかりで自立の基盤もできていない状態での結婚は、経済面だけでなく精神的な負担も大きいものです。私自身、若い頃の結婚についてはあまり良いイメージを持っていなかったため、反対の気持ちは強かったのですが、成人の意思を尊重することも親の役目だと痛感しました。 結婚後、息子はすぐには家庭と仕事のバランスをうまく取れず、相手女性との関係も複雑になってしまいました。不倫や離婚の話が出るとは思ってもみませんでした が、現実問題として息子の生活は大きく揺らぎました。そんなときに親としてできるのはアドバイスや必要な手続きを支援すること、そして精神的な支えになることだと改めて感じました。 特に離婚時の法律相談や元配偶者とのトラブル対応は、専門家の知識が不可欠です。法テラスのような公的な支援機関を活用すること、証拠の収集や弁護士の相談を怠らないことを強く勧めています。また、仕事を辞めた息子に対しては失業保険の申請など社会保障制度の利用もアドバイスしました。 この経験を通じて学んだのは、親子の関係は決して縁を切ることではなく、困難なときこそ支え合うことの大切さです。どんなに反対しても、息子の人生を尊重し、助けを必要とするときにサポートする姿勢が、結果的に息子の再出発への一歩になると信じています。これからも親として柔軟な心で見守っていくつもりです。
