🚩💛💚 WATCHING FOR FLAGS — PART ONE 🦋

When the colors start to blur… Have you ever reached a point where you start questioning EVERYTHING? Is that a red flag? 🚩 Is that a yellow flag? 💛 Is that actually a green flag that I’m just not used to seeing? 💚 Or is something from my past making it harder to see what’s right in f

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What if we became a little less alone? 💌

I started Becoming Her as a place to show up for myself. Lately, the conversations here have reminded me how many of us are looking for someone who understands. Would any women 18+ be interested in a penpal circle? Maybe digital letters to start, or handwritten mail if we’re comfortable later.

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Tonight, I’m tired. 🌙

Today held errands, a walk, games, French toast for supper, and cartoons together. Little moments I’m glad we had. It also held a lot emotionally. There are parts of motherhood I keep private, but carrying them can leave me completely drained. I’m trying to understand myself while showing up

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🦋 BECOMING HER | The Parts of Healing Nobody Talks About

Some days, healing doesn’t look like progress. Sometimes it looks like wanting to put every wall back up. I’ve been struggling lately. Not necessarily with one specific thing, but with everything that comes with learning how to be a different version of myself. Learning to trust. Learning

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Starting back at loving myself 🫶

I almost talked myself out of going today. Not because I didn’t want it — but because getting back into something after falling out of the routine can feel harder than starting the first time. But I went. I walked. I biked. I lifted. I slowed down when I needed to. And I finished. T

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A little check-in before another full week 🌙

I’ve started a few posts lately and never quite finished sharing them. Honestly, I haven’t known how to put everything into words. There’s been a lot to feel, a lot to figure out, and more ahead this week. I’m learning to notice what’s happening within me, even when I don’t know what to do with

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A lot on my heart 🤍

I’ve been a little quieter lately. There’s been a lot to sort through, and some days I’ve had more energy for life than words. I’m making room for connection, little moments of joy, and understanding myself a bit better. Some things I’m keeping close while I figure them out. Just checking in

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💜 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. 💜

And on October 9, 2026, I did something I never thought I’d have the courage to do. I got my first tattoo. 🦋🌙 For years, I wanted one, but my fear of needles always stopped me. I never found a design that felt completely right, either. Until now. This wasn’t a tattoo I picked from the i

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A check-in from the middle of it 🌙

I haven’t written one of these in a little while. I spent much of the past week in bed, feeling miserable and unlike myself. The last day or two, I’ve slowly started to feel a little more present. Today was harder again, and I had counseling too. I’m trying to understand myself better and notice

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🫶Every girl needs moonstone

At first, I just saw a beautiful moonstone ring. But the more I looked at it, the more I realized what I was really drawn to. It’s shaped like a teardrop. And somehow that feels right. Because this ring now holds meaning for me that goes so much deeper than jewelry. It reminds me of every

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Showing up for myself 🫶

I almost talked myself out of going. Not because I didn’t want it, but because for a long time I forgot what it felt like to just do something because I wanted to. Yesterday I took the first step. Today I went back. And this isn’t only about the gym. It’s about learning that I’m allowed to

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A little life check-in 🌙

Today I made time for the gym, started the process of lightening my hair toward silver, and got some cleaning done in my room. I played cribbage while my hair processed, and later went for a walk with kiddo and Ryan. Now kiddo’s curled up in bed beside me, and I’m ready to call it a night. I alm

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MONDAY CHECK-IN 🤍

Before the week gets loud… No big healing lesson today. No pressure to have your shit together. No perfectly planned fresh start. Just a little place to stop before the appointments, responsibilities, other people’s needs, errands, work, school, laundry, dishes, and whatever unexpected

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Lately, I haven’t really known what to say. I’ve been quieter. Less consistent. Less sure of myself. Not because nothing is happening, but because sometimes too much is happening at once and there aren’t words big enough for all of it. There are moments I feel proud of how far I’ve come.

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Day late but still here 🌿

Midweek check-in… a day late, because apparently life does not care about my posting schedule. 😂🍋 I haven’t posted much lately. Not because I stopped healing. Not because I stopped learning. Not because I disappeared. I think I’ve just been living some of it instead of immediately turnin

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I think I rushed the documenting part of healing.

Writing again has been one of the best things I’ve done for myself. It has helped me see patterns. It has made me more honest with myself. It has helped me slow down enough to actually look at what I’m feeling instead of just reacting to it. And sharing some of that has been really mean

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MONDAY CHECK-IN ☕🌿

Well… Here we fucking go again. 😂 New Monday. New week. Same slightly chaotic human trying to figure her shit out one day at a time. And this morning, I don’t want to start with everything I need to accomplish. I don’t want to make a giant list of everything I need to fix. I do

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🌿BECOMING HER — DAY 95

Sunday, August 23, 2026 Today started like absolute fucking shit. Literally. Somehow one of the cats got locked in the office overnight, and I woke up to piss, shit, and a smell so goddamn awful that I immediately wanted to cancel the entire day. I was pissed. I was irritated. I w

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I haven’t disappeared. I’ve just been living

The last couple of days have actually been really good. Not perfect. Not quiet in my head. Not magically healed. Just… good. I’ve had some healing moments. Some realizations. Some uncomfortable self-awareness. Some moments where I’ve had to stop and look at myself differentl

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FRIDAY CHECK-IN 🌿🤎

Okay… Monday we checked in before the week got loud. Well. The week got fucking loud. 😂 So before we rush into the weekend, let’s check back in. Not: Did I get everything done? Not: Was I productive enough? Not even: Did I handle everything the “right” way? Just… Ho

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🌿 Becoming Her | Heather