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Codependency and shame

What’s the thing you run away from, part 3

2025/3/7 Edited to

Codependency is often rooted in deep-seated feelings of shame and self-worth issues. Individuals experiencing codependency may feel inadequate, leading them to rely excessively on others for validation and self-esteem. This relationship dynamic commonly results in unhealthy attachments, where one's emotional well-being becomes overly dependent on the other person's feelings and opinions. Recognizing these patterns is the first step towards healing. In therapy, clients are encouraged to build self-awareness and develop healthier boundaries, which can significantly improve their emotional health. Techniques such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can provide valuable tools for dismantling these negative thought patterns associated with codependency. It's essential to acknowledge that you're not alone—these feelings are common in many people, and seeking help is a courageous move. Consider exploring various therapeutic approaches to find what resonates with you to address and overcome these challenging emotions.

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