You can spend years trying to understand why you felt the way you did. Why you second guessed yourself, why you stayed quiet, why you accepted the bs, just to stay in a place you were never valued. Somewhere along the way, it starts to feel like it must be you, you must have been the pro

I used to think losing people meant I was doing something wrong. like I’d changed too much said too much asked for too much but the truth is… some people were only comfortable with the version of me that kept the peace, stayed agreeable and didn’t need much back. People pleasing isn

I used to think the goal was to escape. To switch off, distract, get through it and hope things would feel lighter eventually. avoidance feels safe at first. it gives you space it softens things it lets you breathe for a moment but over time… it starts to take you further away from y

Avoiding asking yourselves these questions reveals more about you than you think, that being said, it’s natural to avoid what feels uncomfortable. I avoided them for a long time because I already knew what they might reveal. How my own image might reflect back at me. Once you ask them prop