The manipulative game of flirting. If you don't know, you might become guilty!
If you are aware, he will end your relationship that is already in his way, but if you do not know, he may take advantage of you, and it will also get in his way! Step, what's the bad plan? Let's see...
1. Pretend unfounded jealousy. He will associate or make up a story about us cheating on us to confuse ourselves. He may even set up a doll that doesn't exist at all. It may be someone you don't know or may be suspicious of someone you know but you don't think about it.
2. When you try to defend, he will never listen because it was wrong.
3. He will play the victim, pretend to be sorry, like he really loves you, or pretend to condemn you with a fake mistake he created.
4. He will denounce you even though in truth you have done nothing wrong.
5. He will talk to anyone about how bad you are, how wrong you are, so that when he goes, everyone will feel that it is the right thing to do.
6. He can communicate ambiguously, interpret in many ways, communicate to many people.
Impact this person, pave the way for people over there, or maybe they secretly have new people.
Hidden for a long time, but no good rhythm will be revealed because of fear of being accused of many hearts.
7. If you catch the plan, he will never accept it, and he will probably accuse you of being the one who twisted the story. At this point, you may not be able to start to disgust his innocence. If you choose to walk away from him, the more you find that the story he made is true.
8. But if you can't catch the way, still try to defend him, and there is something he wants from you, such as sex, other benefits, he may ask you to prove it by refusing to do something, and if you are loose, prepare tears to wipe your knees!
How to cope consciously and not get in the way
1) Stop playing according to the "defendant" chapter.
If the other side makes an apocryphal allegation, it goes from making an infinite excuse to asking back quietly:
"What facts is this?"
"Do you want an answer or just a decision?"
"If we're not ready to talk on the truth, we'll talk when we're calm."
The goal is not to be dragged into the spin until you start to doubt yourself.
2) See "pattern" rather than one-time speech
People who spin for gain often have loops: accuse → do not listen → play victim → push wrong → use guilt control.
If repeated, this is not just an altercation, but an emotional control.
3) Keep the evidence to yourself
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Not for revenge, but to keep yourself from believing the narrative that was created.
4) Don't prove love by losing boundaries.
Such as sex, money, infinite forgiveness, non-guilty admissibility.
A love that must be "proven pure" all the time. It is often not a safe love.
5) Don't counter every rumor war
People who intend to pave their image often want you to wriggle to see "suspicious."
Select only the necessary key people and use consistency as proof.
6) Set a deadline with yourself.
Ask yourself directly:
Do we feel safer?
Is he responsible for the action?
Is the problem solved or just looped?
If only there was confusion, anxiety, paranoia and self-proof, retreating might be safer.
Important sentences to remember:
"People who want to understand you will listen.
People who want to control you will accuse you. "
Finally 📌
There's no need to prove the truth to the people who benefit from twisting it.
Sometimes self-healing is not to explain until he believes, but to leave the game designed to put you at a disadvantage in the first place. 💪🏻
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