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I'm starting to hate people pleaser habits.

Have you ever...

Who asks for anything is "okay."

Although I want to say that I can't do it anymore

We used to hate this habit.

People Pleaser

Others compliment us as good people.

But we ourselves feel that

Is disappearing from my life little by little

We listen to everyone.

Help everyone.

Allow everything

But finally,

People who "no one helps."

Back to ourselves.

We used to forcibly go to work that we didn't want to go to.

Reply to chat even if wanting to rest

Get more work, both tired and dead

Just because one word in the head

"If he refuses, will he not like us?"

It's funny

We are afraid others are uncomfortable.

Until he let himself be uncomfortable instead.

At one point we started asking ourselves,

Why should we try?

Be "good enough for everyone."

Both the truth is

There's no one on this planet.

That everyone will like already

And then one day we understood

People Pleaser

Not just by being kind.

But it stems from

• Fear of rejection

• Fear of people who do not love

• Fear to disappoint others

Until the last

We let ourselves down instead.

If you read here and feel

"This is my story."

Want to say

You're not the only one

People who are mostly People Pleasers.

Is someone who cares too much about other people.

And the other truth is,

People like this

Usually a very kind person

But just forget to be kind to yourself.

Next time I'll tell you

How did we get out of this whirlpool?

Who used to be? Let's share.

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... Read moreจากประสบการณ์ส่วนตัว การเป็น People Pleaser ทำให้เราเสียสมดุลทางอารมณ์มากกว่าที่คิด เพราะทุกครั้งที่พยายามทำให้คนอื่นพอใจจนเกินไป เราเองกลับรู้สึกเหนื่อยล้าและค่อย ๆ สูญเสียความรู้สึกสุขภาพใจของตัวเองไป นอกจากกลัวการถูกปฏิเสธหรือกลัวว่าจะไม่ได้รับความรัก เรามักจะกดทับความรู้สึกของตัวเองจนไม่สามารถบอกคำว่า “ไม่” ได้อย่างชัดเจน สิ่งที่ช่วยให้เราเปลี่ยนแนวคิดนี้ได้คือการเริ่มฝึกพูดคุยกับตัวเองอย่างซื่อสัตย์ และรับรู้ว่าการปฏิเสธบางเรื่องไม่ได้หมายความว่าเราจะถูกเกลียดเสมอไป เราต้องให้ความสำคัญกับความรู้สึกของตัวเองเท่าเทียมกับความรู้สึกของผู้อื่น ลองตั้งคำถามกับตัวเองก่อนตอบตกลงว่า สิ่งที่ถูกขอให้ทำนี้ ทำให้เรารู้สึกแบบไหน หากรู้สึกอึดอัดหรือเกินกำลัง ก็ควรกล้าปฏิเสธอย่างสุภาพเพื่อรักษาขอบเขตของตัวเอง อย่าลืมว่าคนที่รักเราจริงจะเข้าใจการตั้งขอบเขตนี้ และการดูแลตัวเองไม่ใช่เรื่องเห็นแก่ตัว การหลุดพ้นจากนิสัย People Pleaser ไม่ใช่เรื่องง่าย แต่ถ้าเราเริ่มคิดและลงมือทำในแต่ละวัน จะช่วยสร้างความมั่นใจและสร้างความสุขที่ยั่งยืนในชีวิตได้มากขึ้น ขอให้ทุกคนที่อ่านบทความนี้รู้ว่าคุณไม่ได้อยู่คนเดียว และการรักตัวเองเป็นสิ่งสำคัญที่สุดในการสร้างความสัมพันธ์ที่ดีทั้งกับตัวเองและคนรอบข้าง

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