Why do people have "big dreams" but never start?

"It's not a motivation problem.

It's a nervous system problem. "

Many times, we understand that procrastination is caused by "laziness" or "not good at planning."

But actually...

Procrastination is not a time management issue.

But it's an "emotional management problem."

Because starting something is often accompanied by unease:

* Fear of failure

* Fear of being judged

* Afraid of disappointment

* Fear of rejection

And our brains will automatically try to avoid those feelings.

The easiest thing to regulate emotions now is...

📱. Our phone.

Scrolling causes the brain to undergo rapid dopamine.

Until sometimes we become people who "eat content about dreams."

More than actually doing it.

And that's "stealing from one's own future self."

Because our future looks "far away."

Until the brain feels like it's a "stranger."

Window of Tolerance 🧠

Everyone has their own "stress tolerance window."

If this window is wide →, we will deal well with stress.

But if it's narrow → a small matter, it might give us:

* anxious

* Think distracted

* overwhelmed

* Or shutdown, go ahead

Some people feel tired easily.

Exhausted easily.

Or disconnect with yourself often.

So "self-observation" is very important.

Before changing lives, we have to start by understanding our own nervous system.

The little thing that helps reset the nervous system 🌱

Morning

Instead of picking up the phone immediately after waking up:

* Drink water

* Elongate

* Sit quietly

* Look out the window

Give the brain some "slow wake up."

Afternoon

* Eat without playing the phone

* 10-minute walk without headphones

Because the nervous system needs the same "silence."

Evening

Create a curfew phone 1-2 hours before bed.

You don't have to delete social media.

But the "relationship" with their own phones had to be changed.

Try:

* Move social app from home page

* Notice how often mobile is picked up

* Replace scrolling with small calming activities.

* Use the phone intently, not automatically.

Which will sometimes try to write Journal prompts. ✍🏻

Understanding your pattern

* What time am I calm? What time am I overwhelmed?

* What is it that makes my nervous system worse every day?

* What emotions am I trying to avoid?

Reconnecting with yourself

* What did I like to do when I was a kid?

* Which version of myself do I miss the most?

* What would my life look like if I were calmer?

Moving forward

* What dream did I keep watching about it but never started?

* What small steps can I take today?

* If I knew I wouldn't fail, what would I start tomorrow?

Answering these questions will help everyone be closer to themselves.

One last thing. 🤍

You don't have to change all your life within one night.

No need to meditate an hour a day.

There is no need to quit social media immediately.

And it doesn't have to become a new person next week.

You just have to start with "small things."

One breath.

One walk.

One meal without a phone.

And one moment you actually listen to your body

Credit: Veronika Mark (YouTube, digital book guide)

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