Being an NSGF while doing long distance
Hi Guys! ✨
A lot of people always ask me “how do I do it ?”Being an NSGF and doing long distance at the same time. It’s been a little over a year and I can say it’s definitely not easy but, with insane amounts of communication and trial and error we made it work!!
We are a year into our situation and we are still as strong as we can be. There are lots of factors that play in our favour and it might not be the same for everyone but I hope with me sharing my experience anyone going through the same situation as us will be encouraged 🫶🏻
1. Date nights 🤍
The first few months of being long distance was definitely not easy. It is so hard to go from seeing him everyday to only seeing him on FaceTime every weekend. Even when he calls me during army it’ll be very short as they have to sleep at lights out.
Therefore we took every opportunity on his book out days to do date night! While he was in BMT and in SCS we spent every weekend doing new activities we found on Tik tok or we would be watching a movie/ tv show together.
One activity we found that really worked for us was cooking together. My boyfriend and I are both major foodies and super competitive, so we would do cooking competitions finding recipes to cook on FaceTime together and watch a movie while we eat.
We have honestly been so lucky as my boyfriends vocation in army right now is the military police which means that he is on a 3 day in 3 day out rotation. With this rotation we do get to spend alot more time together!!
2. Birthdays and anniversaries 🎂
So far we have spent our 2nd and 3rd anniversary as well as his birthday apart. For special occasions what I did last year was write a bunch of letters marking special occasions in his life and I passed those letters to his sister. I am so grateful to have her remember when to pass every letter to him! But along with the letters I’ll order gifts and presents to be sent to his place.
What my boyfriend will do is he will send me letters by Mail and either order gifts for me or pass me money to go and buy whatever I wanted. He would also send flowers to my home!!
When it comes to birthdays we do things abit differently, I love surprising my boyfriend. What I did for his birthday was to ask one of his friend to plan an outing to bring him out while I ordered a cake for them.
My birthday was when I was back in Singapore and he planned a whole day of activities for me🫶🏻 we went to rise, watch a movie and went to winter wonderland !!
3. Little gestures 💛
I feel that the most important thing while being in a long distance relationship are the small gestures, it’s hard to support someone when u can’t be physically there. My boyfriend has been a huge support to me epically with whatever stress I have been going through recently. Whenever I’m walking home alone he will call me so that I am not alone. He has randomly transfer me some money to buy lunch or to go and treat myself. Overall those little gesture do show me the love and care he has for me!!
4. Plans 😙
I have been so fortunate with the ability to fly back to Singapore many times! I know this is a luxury that many do not have but I feel that it has given me a sense of excitement knowing when I can finally see my boyfriend again. It acts as a motivation, the planning we do just before I come back, booking tickets for events and restraunts for meals always warms my heart ❤️
Overall this is what has been working for us and I hope I have helped anyone out there seeking advice 🫶🏻
Being in a long-distance relationship while your partner serves as an NSGF (National Service Girlfriend) brings unique challenges that can feel overwhelming at times. One important aspect that often gets overlooked is managing emotional well-being individually and as a couple. I found that establishing routines and setting small goals—like sharing daily highlights or planning future visits—helped build a sense of normalcy and closeness. Additionally, incorporating technology beyond FaceTime, like exchanging voice notes or even short video clips, added a personal touch that brightened our days apart. I also learned the significance of flexibility; military commitments can change unexpectedly, so embracing patience without letting frustration build is vital. Another key is involving your wider support system. For us, having his sister assist in delivering letters and gifts not only bridged distance but reinforced community care. If you are an NSGF, consider reaching out to friends or family your partner trusts to help maintain connection during critical periods. Lastly, self-care must not be neglected. Maintaining hobbies, social life, and mental health allows you to come back to your relationship with renewed energy. I've found that balancing independence with connection is the foundation for sustaining love across miles.
May you and him last long. Happy for both of you :)