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I was told to look after the family pet

I am so empty and it feels so godamn horrible. I've been trying to act like I didn't care but when they were driving to the airport I couldn't stop crying. My mother was so hurt and they kept saying they loved me. Last time we went to a family vacation was when I was around 13. I cried so much I had cramps in my abdomen.

I wrote them a message trying to make them understand what I was feeling and that it hurt me alot. I got back that I was ruining the vacation and to just accept it. They said they thought I wanted to be "free". I know it might have been an asshole move to mention this at the first day of their vacation, but the pictures they sent being all happy made all my emotions I've tried to hide come through. I've never felt this left out and I feel like I'm not a family member. I'm trapped in this house taking care of an animal when they are out being a family on Holliday. I feel heartbroken.

My plan right now is to leave the pet with a relative and go back to Uni and dive into school to forget.

How can I forgive them? Has this happened to anyone else?

2024/2/18 Edited to

Feeling excluded from family activities, especially during vacations, can be emotionally devastating. Many people share similar experiences where they are left behind to care for pets or responsibilities while loved ones enjoy adventures. This situation often breeds feelings of resentment and loneliness. If you find yourself in this predicament, it’s essential to communicate openly with your family about your feelings. Writing a letter or having a heart-to-heart conversation can help them see your perspective. Research shows that strong emotional bonds with pets can exacerbate feelings of isolation when owners feel their roles are overlooked. Acknowledge your pet's importance, but also express your need for connection with the family. Exploring ways to integrate your love for your pet with family activities, such as family-friendly outings that include pets, can foster inclusiveness. Seeking support from friends or online communities might help alleviate feelings of isolation. Sharing your experiences on platforms like #AskLemon8 can provide emotional relief and connect you with others who understand your struggle. You deserve to feel like a valued member of your family, even when caring for the pet at home. Remember, communicating your feelings is the key to healing and finding common ground with family members.

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I'd rather do petsitting the pet than spend hours with certain toxic family members. hahaha. #letschat

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