How I'm doing the holidays in my house
So the whole Santa thing, BUT, We will be doing offerings to Odin (Who Santa is modled after) and lighting candles to " Wake up Apollo" ( To help guide the sun through the darkest night).
I'm not supporting the materialistic part that has become a MASSIVE normal during this time of year. Instead we are focusing on a simple rubric that uses examples such as: 'Something you need, Something you want, Something to read' and so forth.
I've already told all of his family that I'd rather them come see us, and spend time with him than mail him gifts, also I've explained to them about following the similar rubric, and NO TABLETS.
Much like the Christmas tradition of making reindeer food, we are going to be doing it, but it's for all of our animal friends.
Angel trees, I know that social media has made them very clout growing content. Thats not why I want to do one. Every child deserves a nice Christmas and if we can give back to our community, then I'll be guiding my son to be more open minded, empethitic, and compassionate.
I want to make memories, not shove gifts to proove my affection. I want him to look back and have these memories to reminisce and maybe one day IF he has children can share these memories and maybe recreate them.
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Celebrating the holidays in a meaningful and mindful way can truly transform the entire experience for families, especially for first-time parents. Choosing to honor Yule instead of traditional Christmas reflects a return to ancient customs centered around nature and spiritual connection. For example, offerings to Odin—who inspired the modern Santa Claus—and lighting candles to "wake up Apollo" represent welcoming light and warmth during the darkest time of year. The emphasis on gifts following a simple rubric such as "something you need, something you want, something to read" encourages purposeful giving without overindulgence. This approach teaches children the value of thoughtfulness and practicality rather than material excess. Avoiding common tech gifts like tablets also promotes creativity and presence over screen time. Beyond gift-giving, engaging in shared activities such as making reindeer food for animals, baking cookies, crafting ornaments with herbs, and attending light shows creates joyful rituals that deepen family bonds. These memorable moments help children cherish time together and learn empathy by giving back, exemplified by participating in Angel Trees to support other kids in the community. Most importantly, this holiday perspective embraces the natural cycle of life and death, encouraging appreciation for loved ones while they are present. These early lessons in empathy, compassion, and mindfulness can influence children profoundly and provide beautiful memories to pass down through generations. Ultimately, creating a holiday that centers on togetherness, spirituality, and generosity over consumerism offers a refreshing alternative and an example of intentional parenting during a season often dominated by excess.
