@ladiestakenotes asked why we’re moving out of downtown, so here’s the honest answer.
This isn’t me saying downtown is a bad place to live. Every neighbourhood has its strengths. It just wasn’t the best fit for what we want in this season of life as parents.
These were the biggest things we considered:
1. School district. We wanted to be intentional about where our daughter will eventually go to school instead of scrambling later.
2. Daycare availability. As two working parents, having quality childcare nearby was a huge factor. Emphasis on QUALITY!!
3. Future development: this does not mean that the community doesn’t already have stuff, but what will it look like in a few years? We looked at where the community will be in five to ten years. Things like schools, parks, grocery stores, and amenities matter.
4. Safety: We wanted to feel comfortable going for walks, playing outside, and raising our family in the area long term.
5. A functional home: yes I want and love and aesthetic home. Yes, I also want a home that actually works for everyday family life long term. Including our extended family when they come to visit and spend time with us.
6. Community. This one was huge. Yes, we’re doing it for our daughter, but we’re also doing it for us. We’ve felt a little isolated downtown(we have to drive at least 30 minutes to hang out with our friends or do you have to drive 30 minutes to us), and we really value having neighbours, other families, and people to do life with. Parenting is so much richer when you have a community around you.
None of this means downtown can’t offer these things. It absolutely can. It just wasn’t the right fit for what we were personally looking for.
If I was being selfish, I would’ve continued living downtown because my husband and I genuinely love it but priorities have changed. Maybe when we retire we will have a cute little loft downtown? Lol😂
If you are a parent, what was the biggest factor when you chose where you live? Or what would be your non negotiable if you were moving? If you’re not a parent, which of these things stood out to you? Let me know in the comments.
Moving from downtown living to a more family-oriented neighborhood is a significant decision, especially for parents seeking the best environment for their children and lifestyle. From personal experience, the transition has meant prioritizing factors that directly affect daily life and long-term happiness. One of the most critical aspects is the quality and accessibility of childcare. Finding daycare that is not only nearby but also provides a nurturing, high-quality environment eases the stress of balancing work and family. When daycare centers are far or lack quality, it adds commute time and worry that can impact every part of the day. School districts play a crucial role as well. Unlike when we first moved downtown, where convenience and social life might have been key, now the educational opportunities available in the new neighborhood are essential for long-term planning. Choosing an area known for good schools gives peace of mind and reduces future scramble for placement. Considering future development has also been eye-opening. We looked beyond the current state of the neighborhood to what it will offer in the next 5 to 10 years. Parks, grocery stores, recreational facilities, and amenities are important so that a community remains vibrant and functional. This foresight ensures children grow up with plenty of resources and opportunities right at their doorstep. Safety is not just about crime rates but also about the feel of a neighborhood. Being able to go on family walks without worry, letting kids play outside freely, and welcoming guests to visit comfortably are vital for peace of mind and quality of life. Functionality of the home itself cannot be overlooked. As families grow and hosts include extended relatives, a home that works for everyday living—not just aesthetics—makes daily routines smoother and gatherings enjoyable. Finally, community impacts mental health and parenting experience. Downtown living often brought feelings of isolation due to friends being a drive away. Now, interacting with neighbors and other families regularly enriches life and provides a support system that every parent needs. In essence, moving out of downtown is less about rejecting urban life and more about embracing the changing needs of family life. Each family’s priorities differ, but for us, intentional choice in schooling, daycare, safety, community, and a functional home has made all the difference. Parenting truly is more fulfilling when surrounded by a supportive neighborhood that feels like home.
