Growth as a parent
Me and Chevy were rolling out some homemade tortillas (which was a fail so we’re turning them into mini pizza crusts) and she accidentally dropped my VERY nice and expensive marble rolling pin on the floor and it broke in half.
Growth is crazy.
A year ago I probably would have freaked out and maybe cried and, in doing so, really upset her and possible created a negative core memory.
To my surprise, before I could even get upset about, I just picked it up, threw it away, told Chev it was ok and accidents happen. She went to go find her rolling pin and I ordered a new one and we were back at it with her toy rolling pin.
I was also so surprised that Chevy was unfazed when she dropped it. Not because she didn’t care, but because I’ve been working on me and trying every day to be and do better. I was actually waiting for her to apologize profusely and start to cry, but we both just found a solution and moved on.
I am not at all saying I’m perfect because I do yell and I lose my shit sometimes. But since I’ve been taking steps to be a better person and heal from past traumas, it’s also changing my relationships. Life has seemed a little easier through struggles and disappointments.
Learning to let go of what I can’t control and just control yourself and realize that I might be the main character in my story, there’s so many other stories with their own main characters that are affected by me.
It’s just a rolling pin and she’s one of my tiny humans. The rolling pin can be replaced but this moment can’t be.
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Parenting is not just about nurturing children; it's about personal growth and learning to respond to life's unexpected moments. In this journey, parents often find themselves needing to adjust their reactions to various situations, whether it's a broken toy or a spilled drink. The key is emotional regulation—understanding that while we can't control everything around us, we can control how we choose to respond. Positive parenting techniques emphasize the importance of modeling behavior for our children. By demonstrating calmness when faced with setbacks, we teach them resilience and problem-solving skills. It's beneficial to reflect on our past reactions and strive for improvement, as parenting often reveals our own areas for growth. Moreover, embracing these experiences contributes to our well-being. The more we focus on fostering a nurturing environment, the more we encourage our children to approach challenges with a solution-oriented mindset. Every moment, even the small mishaps, provides a chance to strengthen our connection with our children and instill valuable life lessons. As parents navigate through these ups and downs, they can find comfort knowing that growth is a continuous journey, both for themselves and their children. It’s these precious moments, not the material things, that define our parental legacy.
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