Military Wife✨
My husband is literally my soulmate. It’s so hard being a military wife sometimes. My husband left for deployment in September. When I tell yall I cry damn near every week because I just miss him. I just be scrolling watching videos and looking at pictures of us. On top of it we found out I was pregnant in august and he doesn’t come back until a little after the due date. If you’re a military wife how do yall cope??!
Oh, honey, my heart goes out to you. Reading your post brought back so many memories of my own deployments. It's truly one of the hardest parts of military life, and adding pregnancy to the mix? That's a whole new level of strength you're showing. You're not alone in crying and missing him; it's a completely normal and valid feeling. Many of us feel that deep ache, and it's okay to sit with it. When my spouse was deployed, especially during tough times, I found a few things really helped me cope with the loneliness. First, finding a strong support system became my lifeline. This could be other military wives in your area or online communities. There are so many incredible groups on platforms like Lemon8 or Facebook where you can share your feelings, ask for advice, and just connect with women who truly 'get it.' Being able to say, "I'm lonely today," and have someone respond, "Me too, let's chat," is incredibly powerful. This shared understanding is one of the biggest 'benefits' of being a military spouse – we create our own family, a sisterhood that truly understands. Maintaining connection with your husband, even from afar, is also crucial. Scheduled calls, even if short, can make a huge difference. I used to write him letters, not just emails, but actual letters he could hold and read. Sending care packages with his favorite snacks or little reminders of home also helped me feel proactive and connected. And for you, focusing on self-care is non-negotiable right now. Whether it's a quiet evening with a good book, a walk outside, or finding a new hobby, dedicating time to what makes you feel good can fill some of that void. I even started a simple craft project during one deployment, and I found I love having something tangible to focus on. Now, with a baby on the way while he's deployed, that's incredibly challenging. My advice here would be to lean heavily on any local resources. Your Family Readiness Group (FRG) might have programs or connections for expectant military moms. Don't hesitate to reach out for help with things like setting up the nursery or preparing for the hospital. Many military wives have been in your shoes and are more than willing to offer practical help or just an ear to listen. Think about organizing a 'baby shower' with your local military spouse friends – it's a beautiful way to feel celebrated and supported even without him physically there. Remember, you are incredibly strong. This journey is tough, but you're building a family under unique circumstances, and that takes immense courage. Lean on your community, practice self-compassion, and know that every single day brings him closer to coming home and meeting your little one. You've got this, mama!
