Kids before marriage… thoughts?

2024/9/10 Edited to

... Read moreThe decision of when to have children is profoundly personal and can be influenced by cultural, socioeconomic, and individual beliefs. Recently, discussions surrounding the idea of waiting until marriage to start a family have gained traction. Many argue that this traditional viewpoint may no longer resonate with contemporary attitudes towards relationships and family dynamics. In various cultures, the stigma against having children outside of marriage is diminishing as societal norms evolve. Surveys indicate that younger generations are increasingly open to nontraditional family structures, viewing them as valid and fulfilling. Acknowledging this shift, many couples now prioritize emotional readiness and financial stability over societal expectations before starting a family. This has led to the rise of diverse family models including single parenthood, cohabitation without marriage, and blended families. The discussion is further nurtured by media representation that showcases wins and challenges faced by nontraditional families. As a result, more people are willing to share their experiences and perspectives, creating an open dialogue about parenting choices. Moreover, with the influence of social media, conversations are sparked around subjects like the advantages and drawbacks of waiting versus parenthood prior to marriage. Ultimately, the approach to family planning remains subjective and varies from one individual to another, deeply shaped by personal values and circumstances. It is imperative to continue the conversation, allowing various viewpoints to coexist while supporting others on their unique journeys by engaging in forums and community discussions. This multifaceted approach can help demystify outdated norms and embrace more holistic views on modern parenting.

606 comments

Meme Luv's images
Meme Luv

No, please wait until the right person has decided to marry you. It’s not outdated that’s the problem we are having now to many broken homes not enough love and commitment. We need to stand for our children and our morality and actually care about the future and the out come of a household I still believe in love 🄰

See more(5)
Study w Cathy šŸ¤'s images
Study w Cathy šŸ¤

Marriage is more than a formality: It provides structure and security for the children born into it. Also, just because something is old-fashioned doesn't mean it's bad! "Stand by the roads, and look, and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is; and walk in it, and find rest for your souls." šŸ˜ŒšŸ™

See more(4)

See more comments

Related posts

A close-up of two gold wedding rings, one with a diamond, resting on soft pink flower petals. The image features the title "Part 1 BEFORE YOU MARRY HIM !!!!" and the Lemon8 logo with the user handle.
A pink background with text introducing the importance of open conversations before marriage. It states, "Here are some essential questions you might want to ask your boyfriend:" and includes the Lemon8 logo.
A pink background displaying the first category of pre-marriage questions: "1. Family and Relationships." Bullet points cover topics like family involvement, conflict resolution, children, and balancing family, work, and couple time.
Before you marry him !!!
Before saying 'I do,' here are the important questions to ask and the conversations to have because love is built on understanding, trust, and shared dreams. #marriage #engagement #questions #letschat #embracevulnerability
Kaay Love

Kaay Love

6640 likes

A close-up of two hands, one male and one female, wearing rings, placed together against a blurred vineyard background. The image features the title "questions to ask your partner BEFORE MARRIAGE" with question mark bubbles and a "Swipe next" prompt.
A list of the first seven questions to ask a partner before marriage, including topics like living arrangements, children, pets, future plans, relocation, holidays, and finances. The text is overlaid on a blurred outdoor background.
A list of questions 8 through 15 to ask a partner before marriage, covering topics such as chores, religion, conflict resolution, personal goals, values, and couple's therapy. The text is presented on a blurred outdoor background.
questions to ask your partner BEFORE MARRIAGE šŸ’
Marriage is a huge step in taking your relationship to the next level and it’s a big commitment. Having clear and open communication will help your relationship go far. Before getting married, consider asking your partner these questions! 1) where are we going to live after we get married? 2)
Cleo Natalie

Cleo Natalie

1333 likes

A person's hands are on a car steering wheel and gear shift, with keys hanging from the ignition. The image has a text overlay that reads "20 QUESTIONS TO ASK before making things official" with a question mark icon.
Two people are holding hands while walking on a sidewalk, viewed from above. The image displays questions 1-10 from the article, including "what are your long-term life goals?" and "what are your expectations for sexual intimacy?".
A person holds a glass with ice on a table in a dimly lit setting, with beer bottles nearby. The image features questions 11-20 from the article, such as "thoughts on living together before marriage?" and "thoughts on maintaining friendships with the opposite sex?".
ask these questions before making things official
if you’re making things official in a relationship, that likely means you can see some sort of a future with that person. if that’s the case, it's important to check that your vision of the future aligns with the person you are dating. asking these questions early on, ensures that the relations
staci york šŸ’›šŸ‹

staci york šŸ’›šŸ‹

3638 likes

A baby lies in a crib with a pink blanket, while text overlays read: "How to Help Kids Wind Down for Better Sleep." A sleeping emoji and sparkling stars are also visible.
A young child sits on a leopard print blanket surrounded by pillows and toys. An overlay states: "Set a Consistent Bedtime Routine" and explains creating a calming routine like bath, pajamas, story, and snuggles.
A baby in a pink sleeper lies in a crib with a heart-patterned sheet. An overlay reads: "Dim the Lights" and advises lowering lights 30-60 minutes before bed to signal winding down.
Helping Kids Wind Down for Better Sleep šŸ›ļøšŸ’¤
Bedtime struggles? You’re not alone! Creating a calm and consistent wind-down routine can make all the difference in helping kids sleep better. From quiet activities to relaxing bath time and screen-free moments, I’m sharing simple ways to help your little ones relax and get the rest they need. šŸ˜“šŸŒ™āœØ
CozyGirlMama🩷

CozyGirlMama🩷

713 likes

8 WAYS TO REBUILD CONNECTION IN YOUR MARRIAGE (BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE) šŸ’”āœØ
Love doesn’t disappear suddenly… it fades quietly Through: • lack of time • lack of effort • lack of attention But here’s the truth… what fades can be rebuilt Not overnight but intentionally One conversation One moment One effort at a time Marriage isn’t maintained by presenc
Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

101 likes

A couple embracing, with the man kissing the woman's forehead. Overlay text reads 'BEFORE GETTING MARRIED Discuss These' in a speech bubble shape, indicating the topic of the post.
A couple embracing, with overlay text 'BEFORE GETTING MARRIED Discuss These' and a bulleted list of financial topics: Finances, Debits, Credits, Credit Score, Career Plans, Life Goals.
A couple embracing, with overlay text 'BEFORE GETTING MARRIED Discuss These' and a bulleted list of family topics: Family Goals, Religion, Having Kids, Pregnancy, Child Education, Family Style.
Before getting married, discuss these >>
Hello friends! šŸ‹ You will always hear communication is key for a good relationship and it’s true. If you ask any couple that considers themselves to be in a health marriage the secret, they will say: communication. Getting married is a BIG step and after that there are many major life ch
thamysenem

thamysenem

923 likes

A top-down view of two people's hands on a wooden table, one holding a mug and the other a bowl, with a small white dog nearby. Text asks, 'how long should you date before getting ENGAGED ?!'
A person is reflected in a round mirror above a sink, with text suggesting 4-5 years of dating to see compatibility through life changes like grief, job changes, moving, and financial pressures.
A person is reflected in a large mirror, with text explaining that time allows for individual and shared growth, revealing true colors during hardship before engagement.
considerations before saying ā€˜yes’ šŸ’
how long do you think you should date before getting engaged? please include if you’re single / married / divorced with this! I am 30 years old. I’m in a relationship. we’ve been together for 6.5 years and we are still learning so much about ourselves and each other. I’m glad we didn’t let socie
allison wetig

allison wetig

2245 likes

✨ Preparing Your Heart for Marriage in Him
Sister, before you ever promise yourself to your husband, remember—you already belong to Christ. Marriage is a holy gift, but it cannot carry the weight of being your foundation. Only Jesus can. These 15 days are a chance to quiet the noise, open your Bible, and let Him prepare you; not just to be
faithful.honey

faithful.honey

1349 likes

A couple stands in a parking lot with a Starbucks in the background, under an overcast sky. The image features the title '3 IMPORTANT TOPICS TO DISCUSS BEFORE MARRIAGE !!!' in bold white and red text.
A close-up selfie of a couple with text overlay 'SEX-PECTATIONS' and a blue box detailing questions about sex life, frequency, spontaneity, and protection for couples to discuss.
A couple takes a mirror selfie in a clothing store. The image includes the title 'BOUNDARIES' and a blue text box listing various boundary topics like friendships, in-laws, and communication.
Discuss These 3 Things Before Marriage, PLEASE!!
You guys, these topics will HELP you so much. If you are getting married soon or even just moving in with your partner, PLEASE PLEASE discuss these things for a better DAY TO DAY relationship. 1. Sex-pectations! EVERY SINGLE PERSON is different. Discuss what you may want your sex life to look l
Allie Mac

Allie Mac

1322 likes

3 ways to honor your marriage (while raising kids)
Let’s talk about loveeeee + marriagešŸ’“ So you’ve fallen in love and you’ve started a family together! This exciting season of life is filed with beautiful moments, but also some tough spots that you might need help navigating through. Here are 3 WAYS TO HONOR YOUR MARRIAGE (while raising kids)
Julia Keefe

Julia Keefe

194 likes

GOD’S PLAN FOR MARRIAGE- PT 18 ā€¼ļø
What is God’s perfect plan for marriage? Here is what you need to know. Save and return when needed. Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Tune in for more marriage bible study series for brides in waiting šŸ’• #christiangirl #viral #christianlemon8 #christianlifestyle #lemon8cr
Shalom

Shalom

691 likes

A happy couple embracing on a beach, with the title "Rules In our Marriage" overlaid, introducing the topic of their relationship guidelines.
A couple sits on a beach at sunset, looking into each other's eyes, with the first marriage rule "1: watching porn = cheating" overlaid.
A couple holds hands, standing on a beach at sunset, looking out at the ocean, with the second marriage rule "2: we go to bed at the same time every night" overlaid.
Rules in our marriage that make people angry
These rules in our marriage may make people angry, but they have kept our marriage alive and healthy for the past 6 years, and I will never apologize for them or sugarcoat them. What are some rules that you have in your marriage? #marriage #relationship #relationshipadvice #relationships
Lis Daily | UGC

Lis Daily | UGC

3041 likes

" Read This Before Marriage Relationship
#RelationshipAdvice #MarriageAdvice #DatingAdvice #RedFlags #HealthyRelationship #Couples #Love #RelationshipGoals #SelfLove #Wisdom #Emotionallntelligence #ChristianRelationship #ToxicRelationships #RealLove #Dating #Marriage #FYP #ForYou #Viral #LoveTok
LOVE IS THE GREATEST

LOVE IS THE GREATEST

27 likes

Mental Illness Tips For Kids
when you are in elementary school, you learn the rules in the classroom and majority they teach kids how to be kind and how to share. For someone with a mental illness, it's crucial to recognize negative thought patterns and actively work on transforming them into more positive, constructiv
🌸GenāœØš–„” ′ ⩇⩇:⩇⩇ ā‹†ā˜¾ā‹†āŗā‚Š ✧

🌸GenāœØš–„” ′ ⩇⩇:⩇⩇ ā‹†ā˜¾ā‹†āŗā‚Š ✧

18 likes

A couple stands in a field at sunset, with text overlay "questions to ask your partner BEFORE MOVING IN TOGETHER" and speech bubbles with question marks. A "Swipe next" arrow is at the bottom right.
A list of questions (1-7) for partners before moving in together, including budget, chores, routines, and long-term relationship goals, displayed over a blurred image of a couple.
A list of questions (8-15) for partners before moving in together, covering future living, conflict resolution, marriage, kids, pets, guests, and furniture budget, over a blurred image of a couple.
questions to ask BEFORE MOVING IN TOGETHER
Moving in with your partner is a HUGE step. Make sure to ask your partner these questions before moving in together so that you both can have clear expectations and open communication! 1) what is our monthly budget for rent or mortgage? 2) who will be responsible for paying various utilities,
Cleo Natalie

Cleo Natalie

40 likes

PRE-WEDDING QUESTIONS to discuss before MARRIAGE!šŸ’
If you’re making the decision to marry your best friend… I assume that you both are confident that you already know pretty much everything about one another! But there are some things that I feel like are very important that should always be discussed! Even if you think you already know your
Sarah Bispy

Sarah Bispy

41 likes

5 critical questions to ask before it's too late 🌸
Some conversations can't wait. Kids, future, finances, conflict style, commitment—these need alignment before you're too invested. Have the hard talks early to avoid heartbreak later. Bond Couples App helps you have these conversations: šŸ’¬ Future Planning Prompts - Align on big life quest
MyBondApp

MyBondApp

4 likes

šŸ’”Read This Before committing your self to Marriage
#relationship #love #relationshipadvice #couplegoals #fyp #viral #lovequotes #dating #relationships #trending #relationshipgoals #foryou #tiktokviral #reallove #couples Best Short Hashtag Set for Reach: #relationship #love #relationshipadvice #fyp #viral #couplegoals #dating #reallove
LOVE IS THE GREATEST

LOVE IS THE GREATEST

15 likes

šŸ’” ā€Best Marriage Book for 2025ā€œ
Rating: ā­ā­ā­ā­ā˜† If you're struggling to navigate the complexities of modern marriage, The All-or-Nothing Marriage might just be the guide you need. Exploring how high expectations can make or break relationships, it offers practical insights into balancing intimacy with independence. šŸ”‘ Key
EllaReadsThings

EllaReadsThings

228 likes

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR PARTNER BEFORE MARRIAGE ā‰ļø
Marriage is a HUGE commitment and I think it’s so important for both partners to be 100% on the same page in order to have a successful and happy marriage. Here are some questions I absolutely think you should ask before getting married (aka don’t get married before asking these questions!) 1
Cleo Natalie

Cleo Natalie

72 likes

A baby in a cream onesie with a teddy bear patch and matching booties lies in a bassinet. An adult hand gently touches the baby's foot. Text overlay asks, 'He wants a baby before marriage... am I wrong for saying no?'
He wants baby before marriage
So my boyfriend told me he wants to have a baby with me. The thing is, I’ve always been clear — I want a ring, a wedding, and a honeymoon first. He says I’m ā€œunrealisticā€ and that his friends already have kids without all that. He even compared me to one of his female friends who’s the breadwinn
Brey

Brey

339 likes

A man proposes to a woman on one knee with a ring box in an urban park setting, with the text 'How long should you date Before getting engaged?' overlayed.
A happy couple smiles at the camera, with the woman displaying an engagement ring, accompanied by text discussing age and maturity in relationships.
A couple smiles at each other in an outdoor setting, with text emphasizing the quality of a relationship over dating duration.
How Long Should You Date Before Engagement?
Comment your thoughts! These are mine. Quality of relationship, intentionality, maturity, and stage of life are all aspects to consider. With that as an established consideration, I don’t think the length of relationship is a one size fits all. It depends on where you lie in each of those areas
Delaney

Delaney

571 likes

A black and white photo of a Black couple, dressed in light formal wear, standing intimately in front of a decorated Christmas tree. They are holding hands, with a white heart outline and text "4 ways we improve intimacy In our marriage" overlaid.
4 ways we improve intimacy in our marriage 🫶
šŸ‹ Intimacy is the key to a thriving marriage! Here are 4 ways my husband and I keep the flames burning strong: 1ļøāƒ£ Make love at least twice a week: Physical intimacy is an essential part of a healthy relationship. We set aside time for each other and prioritize our connection in the bedroom. šŸ”„
šŸŽ€SolangešŸŽ€

šŸŽ€SolangešŸŽ€

86 likes

homemaking tasks i’m training in before marriage
even though i’m not married yet, i believe preparation is an act of faith. i’m not just waiting for marriage—i’m building the habits that will help me honor God and love my future family well šŸ«¶šŸ¾here are some homemaker habits i’m practicing now: i’m not rushing the season, i’m just making sure i’
joelle šŸ’•

joelle šŸ’•

270 likes

A FEW THINGS BEFORE SAYING ā€œI DOā€
While everyone wants to believe they will just ā€œmake it workā€ with their partner because they’re in love, it’s important to set yourselves up for success! Marriage is all about open communication and you want to make sure you’re as on the same page with your partner as you can be! These topi
taylordharrish

taylordharrish

53 likes

A close-up of a brown horse with its tongue slightly extended and eyes partially closed, set against a soft, blurred green background. The image conveys a moment of subtle expression and relaxation, aligning with the article's focus on "micro feel" and equine connection.
Can your horse feel your thoughts… before you move
That’s micro feel — the moment your horse reads the energy behind your intention before the cue even happens. When we rush, pull, or over-ask, we drown out that subtle communication. But when we listen — to the twitch of an ear, the shift of a rib cage, the flicker of softness in an eye — we st
Jamie Johnson Bennett

Jamie Johnson Bennett

176 likes

A close-up of a man and woman holding hands in a field, with the text "5 things to talk about with your partner before getting married SWIPE" overlayed. The woman wears a ring.
A classical marble sculpture of two figures embracing, with the text "01. CHILDREN" and related questions about having children, adoption, and timeline.
Shadows of a couple holding hands and dancing on a textured wall, accompanied by the text "02. FINANCES" and questions about financial arrangements and expenses.
5 Topics You Should Discuss Before Marriage šŸ’
These are some topics and questions that you and your partner should discuss before getting married or thinking of tying the knot. It’s important to have these discussions even if they are or can be uncomfortable that way you have a clear understanding of what your married life will look like. #
Vanessa

Vanessa

41 likes

The front cover of the manga "Firefly Wedding" by Oreco Tachibana, featuring a blonde woman and a dark-haired man, both with bloodstains, against a pink and purple background with fireflies.
The back cover of "Firefly Wedding" manga, displaying a synopsis of the story, publisher information (Viz Media, Shojo Beat), pricing, and an illustration of a woman with a red umbrella.
An open manga page showing "Chapter 1: Unwanted Repayment." It features a black and white illustration of a man and a woman in traditional Japanese attire, kneeling, surrounded by glowing elements.
a twisted marriage of convenience
Title: Firefly Wedding Creator: Oreco Tachibana šŸ“„ Plot: Meiji-era noblewoman named Satoko, who is engaged to be married to a nobleman but targeted by an assassin named Shinpei. Satoko is ill, has a short time to live, and wants to secure a marriage to benefit her family before she dies. When
Mel3ficent

Mel3ficent

119 likes

10 QUESTIONS YOU MUST ANSWER BEFORE MARRIAGE āš ļø (Answer honestly)
✨ Love feels right… but marriage requires clarity ✨ Love can make things feel perfect… but marriage will expose everything you ignored šŸ‘‰ your patterns šŸ‘‰ your wounds šŸ‘‰ your expectations šŸ‘‰ their reality These questions? They’re not optional They decide your future ✨ Most people don’
Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

31 likes

A graphic titled 'MARRIAGE BIBLE STUDY RESOLVING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE' features a cartoon couple in a heated discussion, with the text in pink and yellow against a white background.
A page from a book outlines the first step to resolving conflict in marriage: 'Confront in a Loving and Positive Manner,' quoting Proverbs 15:1 about soft answers turning away wrath.
A book page details the second step to resolving conflict: 'Complain and Don't Criticize,' explaining that complaining focuses on oneself while criticizing focuses on the spouse.
RESOLVING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE- PART 12ā€¼ļø
Do you know the tips in resolving conflict in marriage? Knowing this before getting to marriage is important! Conflict is a major issue in destroying a marriage, you can’t avoid conflict but dealing with them is a key to a successful marriage. It took me to get into marriage to learn this and
Shalom

Shalom

65 likes

#1 question to ask before marriage
This is the #1 question every couple needs to ask before getting married. Not ā€œare we compatibleā€ā€”but ā€œcan we repair?ā€ Healthy love is the ability to find your way back. šŸ’™āœØ #relationshipadvice #premaritalcounseling #beforeyougetmarried #couplestherapy #marriagetips #relationsh
EmbracingJoyTherapy

EmbracingJoyTherapy

17 likes

A woman with dreadlocks and tattoos stands with arms outstretched in a desaturated forest, illustrating a solo day trip to Elkmont ghost town to end lonely wife syndrome.
A serene river flows through a forest with bare trees under a cloudy sky, with text encouraging spontaneous solo day trips and research for adventure.
A woman with dreadlocks and tattoos smiles at the camera by a river in a forest, with text advising to dress up and do makeup to feel good on a solo trip.
My marriage is falling apart, So I took a trip.
Here’s my story. I also wanted to share tips for anyone else wanting ti take a solo day trip to clear their head and feel empowered. I hope this helps someone! I never thought I’d be the kind of person to do things alone I’ve always been co-dependent always needed someone by my side but after 1
Dawnjeanelle

Dawnjeanelle

379 likes

IMPORTANT CONVO TO HAVE BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED!!
Before you and your partner say "I do," you might think you know everything about each other. But there are still things you might not have talked about yet. Asking the right questions before getting married can help you uncover needs, dreams, and expectations for your life together that yo
MilaidyšŸ«§šŸŒŗšŸ•

MilaidyšŸ«§šŸŒŗšŸ•

143 likes

A woman in a black dress smiles on an outdoor path. The image has text overlays "5 THINGS TO KNOW" and "BEFORE MARRIAGE," with small heart doodles and a Lemon8 username.
Pink and orange flowers frame text overlays: "Knowing when God speaks to you would prevent you from choosing the wrong man." and "Deliverance prayers from generational curses for you and your partner is very important." A Lemon8 username is at the bottom.
Red roses with green leaves are in the background of text overlays: "Pray for discernment before taking relationship advices.", "You'll be disappointed by lack of support from people you least expected. Focus only on God", and "Fasting and praying with your partner about your future home and children builds a strong foundation." A Lemon8 username is at the bottom.
5 THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE MARRIAGEā€¼ļø
Here are some things that helped me prepare for marriage. For every wives in waiting, start now to build the foundation. What would you like to know more about preparing for marriage? Join me in my ministry for preparing brides in waiting šŸ’• #christiangirl #lemon8creator #viral #chri
Shalom

Shalom

43 likes

See more