advice: are messy buns buisness casual?

hi all! as you can tell, i have curly hair.

Anyone who has curly hair knows that it’s a hassle to do your hair every single day. This summer, I had an internship at an engineering firm and our dress code is buisness casual. I typically do my hair everyday because I don’t want to be seen as lazy and I feel more put together when I do my hair.

So today, I woke up 5 minutes before I had to leave and had no time to do my hair, I decided that the best thing I could do is toss it up into a messy bun. I went to work and I feared that my hair looked unprofessional. I had a comment from someone and they told me that my hair needs to be done to maintain a professional appearance.

However, I have seen other women at my work, with straight hair, that have worn messy buns and have not been told anything.

I feel as though because I have curly hair, if your hair isn’t slicked back, it looks messy to those without curly hair. In my opinion, my hair isn’t messy and if anything this is a very clean messy bun compared to my other ones lol!

So my question is, do you think that it’s appropriate to wear a messy bun to work, or does it look unprofessional

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2024/7/17 Edited to

... Read moreIt's a question many of us with curly hair have pondered: can a messy bun truly be professional for a business casual environment? I completely relate to the struggle of wanting to look put-together without spending hours on hair, especially when you're rushing to an internship! From my own observations and trying different styles, I've come to realize that the line between a chic, effortless messy bun and one that's perceived as 'unprofessional' can be surprisingly thin, and often depends on a few key factors. First, let's talk about what makes a 'professional' messy bun. For me, it often comes down to the intention and *execution*. A truly professional messy bun isn't just thrown up without thought. It usually involves making sure the hair at the crown is relatively smooth, even if the bun itself is voluminous. I've found that using a good hair tie, like a silk scrunchie or a strong elastic, and perhaps a few bobby pins to secure stray pieces around the nape of the neck or temples can make a huge difference. The goal is to look intentionally undone, not genuinely disheveled. For us curly-haired individuals, achieving that 'clean messy bun' look can be a bit more challenging, but definitely not impossible! My secret weapon has become a good curl-defining cream or gel applied when my hair is damp, which helps control frizz and gives my curls a more polished finish even in a bun. When I’m aiming for a high messy bun, I usually gather my hair while looking in a mirror to ensure the shape is flattering and not too 'wild.' Sometimes, leaving out a few wispy tendrils around the face can soften the look without making it less professional. For a neat yet casual curly bun, I've also found success with a low messy bun secured at the nape, which can look very elegant. Another aspect to consider is the overall context of your outfit and makeup. If you're wearing a polished business casual ensemble and have a touch of makeup, a well-executed messy bun can complement the look perfectly. However, if the rest of your appearance is also on the more casual side, a messy bun might push it over the edge into truly unprofessional territory. It's all about balancing the elements of your overall workplace appearance. I've personally experimented with various bun styles, from a sleek, tightly coiled professional bun for more formal days to a softer, but still contained, high curly bun for everyday office wear. Each style has its place, and understanding your workplace culture is key. Regarding the double standard I've noticed – where straight-haired colleagues seem to get away with more 'messy' styles – I think it speaks to a broader perception bias. Curly hair, by its nature, often has more volume and texture, which can unfortunately be misconstrued as unkempt if not styled in a way that others perceive as neat. It's frustrating, but it means we sometimes have to put in a little extra effort to achieve that 'polished messy' look. Don't let it discourage you from embracing your natural texture! Ultimately, I believe a high messy bun or a lower, more classic bun can absolutely be appropriate for work. It just requires a bit of thought and attention to detail, especially when you have beautiful, voluminous curly hair. Don't be afraid to experiment with different placements and accessories to find what feels both comfortable and professional for your workplace! Remember, confidence in your chosen style often makes the biggest statement.

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It sounds like discrimination in my opinion. Why would they say something to a curly haired girl and not a straight haired girl?

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