Why is it so hard to make friends?

I find it hard for me to make genuinely good friends that aren’t full of themselves and make the world revolve around them. For years I have came across this problem and never understood why am I the person that fixes everyone then they disappear or make me seem like the bad guy.

1. All of my family and past relationships just say that I have bad taste in friends(ehh idk). I feel like they give be a fake persona then the real them eventually comes out.

2. I feel as if I give way to much of my kind energy ti people and go above and beyond for people that I know won’t do the same for me. (I think I just refuse to be a bad person tbh)

I wonder if I’m going through this because it’s just my time to be in isolation, but I really enjoy seeing girls hanging out with there friends and having fun!

Fort Lauderdale
2024/1/26 Edited to

... Read moreMaking friends can be a complex and often frustrating experience for many people. Factors such as past relationships, personal expectations, and social anxiety can play significant roles in the challenges faced when seeking genuine connections. Understanding why it feels hard to make friends often involves reflecting on the qualities we seek in other people. Individuals may experience disillusionment when they feel let down by those they thought were trustworthy. This can lead to one-sided relationships, where one party invests emotionally without receiving the same support in return. Such patterns may stem from people-pleasing tendencies, making it important to set boundaries and recognize the importance of mutual respect in friendships. It's also essential to explore personal interests and environments conducive to meeting new people. Engaging in hobbies or communities aligned with one's passions can provide opportunities to connect with like-minded individuals. Furthermore, social skills development, such as effective communication and active listening, can enhance the quality of interactions and make it easier to form lasting friendships. Lastly, while the journey toward making friends can feel lonely at times, it's vital to be patient and persistent. Many people share similar struggles, and investing time in understanding both oneself and the dynamics of relationships can lead to more fulfilling connections over time.

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