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Heal What You Don’t See Controlling You

Many of the reactions we call “bad habits” are actually old survival patterns.

Your defensiveness, people-pleasing, or fear of conflict might not be flaws — they’re protection mechanisms your younger self built to stay safe.

Awareness is the first step toward healing.

You can’t change your past, but you can stop it from running your present. 💫

#EmotionalHealing #InnerWork #SelfAwareness #TraumaRecovery #NextLevelWithBou

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LizzardLady13 aka Lizzie

Wish I COULD show this to MY parents! I try telling myself that they were doing the best they knew how….The “conditional” love with so much judgement was the worst for me😿

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