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"The lesson of the selfish... always begins after losing the good."

"Selfish Hearts Always Learn Too Late."

Article:# Teacher one- The architect told the story.

There's a word I'd like to leave to someone who's still living around "selfishness..."

A word derived from the experiences of many people I have experienced, both in work, in love and in life...

"The stupidest people are the ones who let good people get out of their hands.

Just because of selfishness, selfishness and never being honest with anyone. "

Life is weird...

Maybe we never know how valuable "one person" is to us.

Until the day he walked away quietly.

Not because there is no heart

But because he's "tired enough" of the insincerity we give.

Good people are not rare...

But "the chance to get him back" is...

Even rarer than diamonds accidentally dropped in the sea.

In all kinds of relationships.

Love, family, friends or anyone.

We may have accidentally "given" rather than "given."

Probably thought he'd be with us forever.

Probably used to think we always had time to adjust.

But the truth is...

A person who uses love... when he is too disappointed that his heart can accept.

He'll be quiet... and gradually disappear.

Like a candlelight that goes out without making a sound.

And when that day comes,

So we know...

Losing good people is not the most regrettable thing.

The more regrettable thing is that we let our "selfishness"

Destroy what we've been searching for all our lives.

Some people don't know the value of having someone who really loves.

Until the day of living with the "emptiness" he created.

Some people regret it.

Some people want to go back in time.

But no one can actually reverse anything.

The lesson of life, it's always clear.

What we don't value... will one day become what we miss the most.

And what used to be at hand.

If we take care of it selfishly,

It will get out of hand.

Worthy.

• Any form of love, relationship, or bond

Needs "sincerity" rather than "words."

• If there are still good people around today,

To take care of him like a precious thing we fear will disappear.

• And if you get the good guys out of hand...

Don't blame fate. Look back at yourself first.

Maybe...

This lesson of yours

Could be something of a reminder that

The following...

Don't love anyone with selfishness again.

Because finally...

Life will always punish the selfish.

And will repay sincere people in a worthy way

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2025/12/10 Edited to

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