we never fight over chores

a question we get asked pretty often is - how do we split household chores?

and the truth is…. we kinda don’t have a system? 🤷🏻‍♀️

besides both of us being mildly OCD, we also have the trusty devices to solve this problem!! as i always say - why do things yourself when you can outsource it to technology 🤓

1. first up is our trusty washer and dryer system! we got ours from Sharp, and it’s been working great for the past 1.5 years.

2. for clothes that can’t be put in the dryer, we hang them on our steigen! works perfectly for us :)

3. now that we’ve been cooking more, a dishwasher is such a lifesaver! no more fighting over who does the dishes.

4. we barely vacuum and mop our floor anymore, because our roborock does it for us! perfect for day to day maintenance, and can be controlled using an app to determine which parts of the home to clean.

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... Read moreIn my experience, managing household chores can quickly become a source of tension in any relationship. However, I've found that integrating smart home devices drastically reduces conflict and keeps daily chores manageable. For example, using a reliable washer and heat pump dryer like Sharp’s not only speeds up laundry but also ensures clothes are well cared for, which makes both partners happier. For delicate clothes that shouldn’t go in the dryer, having a dedicated drying rack such as the Steigen provides a simple, efficient solution. It’s amazing how small adjustments like hanging clothes properly can lighten the load significantly. One of the biggest game changers for me has been investing in a dishwasher. Instead of debating who washes the dishes, the machine takes over this tedious task. This frees up time for both of us and eliminates the usual frustration associated with dish duty. Lastly, the Roborock robot vacuum has been indispensable. Its ability to be scheduled via an app to clean specific zones means our floors stay spotless with minimal effort. It’s especially helpful for day-to-day maintenance, preventing dirt buildup and alleviating the need for manual vacuuming or mopping. By outsourcing these chores to technology, we save time and avoid many common disputes. This approach not only streamlines household management but also contributes to a more peaceful and enjoyable living environment. If you’re looking to reduce chore-related stress at home, I recommend exploring these smart appliances—they truly make a difference in balancing responsibilities and keeping harmony.

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dishwasher takes up a space in the kitchen. how do you managed it ? do you relocate the space elsewhere?

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Sour Lemon

I am always fighting over chores. I want to help but she doesn't want me to. As one ages, body sores more.

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