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"Choose yourself first... not because we are selfish.

"Choose yourself first...

It's not because we're selfish.

But because we're tired of appeasing others,

Until forgetting to take care of his own heart

We used to allow

Used to endure

Used to give everything

To maintain some kind of relationship.

But in the end... no one will heal us

So today I want to tell myself that

Enough to be a good person to hurt repeatedly.

It's time to turn around and love yourself.

Pay some attention to your own feelings.

If what isn't?

Well, don't force it.

If anyone doesn't see

Well, don't try.

Choose yourself...

Probably didn't make everything better right away.

But it won't hurt us any more. "

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... Read moreการเลือกตัวเองไม่ใช่เรื่องง่าย แต่เป็นก้าวสำคัญของการดูแลหัวใจและจิตใจที่เหนื่อยล้าจากการพยายามเอาใจคนอื่นอย่างไม่รู้จบ จากประสบการณ์ส่วนตัว หลายครั้งที่เรารู้สึกว่าต้องอดทน เพื่อให้ความสัมพันธ์ดำเนินไป แต่ความจริงบางครั้งการพยายามรักษาความสัมพันธ์ที่ไม่ได้หวังดีต่อเรา อาจทำให้เราเจ็บปวดมากยิ่งขึ้น คำพูดที่ว่า "ล้มได้ก็ลุกได้" เป็นแรงบันดาลใจเล็กๆ ที่ช่วยให้เรามีความเข้มแข็งทางใจ ไม่ว่าจะผ่านเรื่องแย่ๆ หรือความผิดหวัง การให้เวลาตัวเองได้พัก รู้จักฟังเสียงหัวใจของตัวเอง และให้คุณค่ากับความรู้สึกเป็นสิ่งสำคัญที่ช่วยให้เราก้าวข้ามความเจ็บปวดได้ สิ่งที่อยากแนะนำสำหรับคนที่กำลังเหนื่อยและท้อแท้ คือการตั้งคำถามกับตัวเองว่า เรากำลังทำสิ่งนั้นเพื่อใคร และมันคุ้มค่ากับการเสียใจหรือไม่ บางครั้งการปล่อยวาง หรือเลือกที่จะไม่ฝืนกับสิ่งที่ไม่ใช่ อาจเป็นการให้โอกาสตัวเองได้พบกับสิ่งที่ดีกว่าในอนาคต การรักตัวเองไม่ใช่การเห็นแก่ตัว แต่มันคือการรู้จักคุณค่าตัวเองและหยุดวงจรของความเจ็บช้ำซ้ำๆ เมื่อเราเริ่มรักและให้ความสำคัญกับตัวเอง ความเข้มแข็งทางใจจะค่อยๆ เกิดขึ้น และช่วยให้เราผ่านทุกสถานการณ์ที่ยากลำบากไปได้ด้วยความมั่นคงมากขึ้น

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