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"Choose yourself first... not because we are selfish.

"Choose yourself first...

It's not because we're selfish.

But because we're tired of appeasing others,

Until forgetting to take care of his own heart

We used to allow

Used to endure

Used to give everything

To maintain some kind of relationship.

But in the end... no one will heal us

So today I want to tell myself that

Enough to be a good person to hurt repeatedly.

It's time to turn around and love yourself.

Pay some attention to your own feelings.

If what isn't?

Well, don't force it.

If anyone doesn't see

Well, don't try.

Choose yourself...

Probably didn't make everything better right away.

But it won't hurt us any more. "

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