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healing after a break up 🤍

these are self-reflection questions to ask yourself after going through a traumatic or difficult break up. when you get to know yourself, what you want, and what your boundaries are, you’re able to move through the world and attract the type of partner you desire with more confidence and ease. 🫶🏼

1. what values are important to you?

🤍 what are your values?

🤍 what values do you want your partner to have?

2. what are your non-negotiables?

🤍 what are you willing to settle for?

🤍 what are you not willing to settle for?

3. what makes you feel loved?

🤍 what are your receiving love languages?

🤍 what makes you feel unloved?

4. how do you show love?

🤍what are your giving love languages?

🤍 what do you do to show your partner they are loved?

#lemon8partner #lemon8challenge #safespace

2024/11/9 Edited to

Healing after a breakup is a vital journey that requires self-reflection and understanding. Engaging with thought-provoking questions can help clarify what you truly value in relationships. Start by identifying your core values – what principles are essential for you in a partner? Understanding your non-negotiables is equally important; consider what aspects of a relationship you refuse to compromise on. Additionally, think about how you give and receive love. Reflecting on your love languages can illuminate how you best express affection and what makes you feel cherished. By diving deep into these self-reflection questions, you pave the way to healthier relationships and foster self-love. Establish personal boundaries and grow your confidence as you heal. Remember, each step you take post-breakup brings you closer to your ideal partnership and a renewed sense of self.

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